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#70: October 18, 2011, 10:39:50 AM
I have been wanting to get into running for sometime now...but I have the kids with me most of the time as well.
Any advice on how to get started cause yes, I am eating more now than before and the weight I lost on my MLC diet is starting to come back- yikes!!!
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Re: GAL: Ideas, Inspiration, Hobbies, Advice
#71: October 18, 2011, 10:47:23 AM
My H left a month before Christmas. One of the most cathartic things that I did was book a hotel room for New Years Eve. I took my diaries and spent New Years Eve on my own in a hotel - I went into the city, bought myself a cocktail, toasted myself (to my new life) and dinner, I went to watch the fireworks at midnight and then went back to my hotel room and slept properly for the first time in a long time. No children, not in a shared marital bed, it was the first time I had a sense that I might be alright. I am planning to try to go away somewhere this New Year too.

It may sound sad, but actually I found it liberating to just be able to do things exactly the way that I want.

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#72: October 18, 2011, 11:33:24 AM
S & D,
That sounded really great!
Last New Year's Eve I went to bed early.....didn't even stay up for the new year.
This year will be different.

I highly recommend making a plan to be with family and friends - or even just yourself.  But, give yourself a treat.

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Re: GAL: Ideas, Inspiration, Hobbies, Advice
#73: October 18, 2011, 12:01:16 PM


All I know for sure about getting a life is that I am not getting one by being online so much, lol! But there's just so much info at every turn. It's overwhelming. Sometimes, you just have to take the info that you do have and just walk away and apply what you've learned to your life to the best of your capability. :)
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Re: GAL: Ideas, Inspiration, Hobbies, Advice
#74: October 18, 2011, 12:15:10 PM
Quote from: StandandDeliver on October 18, 2011, 10:47:23 AM
My H left a month before Christmas. One of the most cathartic things that I did was book a hotel room for New Years Eve. I took my diaries and spent New Years Eve on my own in a hotel - I went into the city, bought myself a cocktail, toasted myself (to my new life) and dinner, I went to watch the fireworks at midnight and then went back to my hotel room and slept properly for the first time in a long time. No children, not in a shared marital bed, it was the first time I had a sense that I might be alright. I am planning to try to go away somewhere this New Year too.

It may sound sad, but actually I found it liberating to just be able to do things exactly the way that I want.

You know of the surface of that... it sounded sad... but then I was just recalling that the weekend before last is thanksgiving here in Canada and I went the entire weekend by my self at my brothers cottage 2-1/2 hours from here.  Thanksgiving traditionally a really family time of year around our place.  On the flip side... I knew the parents in law would be over and so kids would be fed. 

An interesting aside... I just heard today that Thanks giving morning... my wife went to work for a couple of hours... apparently she didnt actually go to work :/
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Re: GAL: Ideas, Inspiration, Hobbies, Advice
#75: October 18, 2011, 12:24:16 PM



" just heard today that Thanks giving morning... my wife went to work for a couple of hours... apparently she didnt actually go to work :/"


It's especially hard to hear those details after some time has passed. You then worry about all of the minutes in between when it ( the new information ) happened and when you found out and wonder exactly what was true or false. 
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#76: October 20, 2011, 05:58:34 PM
It's Friday here so the weekend is getting closer!  Time for some GAL activities.

Tomorrow my sister is coming over to help me de-clutter.  She loves doing tht sort of stuff.

I hope to have a nice clean home by the end of the day  :)  More room for my GAL craft activities.

Tonight we have the school BBQ and another tomorrow night for D2's mainly music group.

Yey.  No cooking for 2 night's in a row!

Please keep posting your ideas everyone.  I'm sure there's more out there  ;)
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Re: GAL: Ideas, Inspiration, Hobbies, Advice
#77: October 20, 2011, 06:10:06 PM
It sounds so goofy but that's what I'm doing this weekend....organizing the house! No kids so I can get rid of things they probably won't miss...LOL!
Is that pathetic for GALing- I do love organizing and there is more room in the house with most of H's stuff gone.
Yay weekend!!
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Re: GAL: Ideas, Inspiration, Hobbies, Advice
#78: October 20, 2011, 06:13:23 PM
I think if you get a nice spacious house out of it which facilitates GALing then why would it be goofy. :)

I too look forward to getting all of H's stuff out of the house and into ONE shed so we can store our stuff in another.  Just have to get the key off him ::)  He still thinks he 'owns' that one.

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Re: GAL: Ideas, Inspiration, Hobbies, Advice
#79: October 20, 2011, 06:20:52 PM
Still...me too!
H thinks he can still come and go as he pleases in my house (still the matrimonial home- but he calls it MY house)
so hand over the key BUSTER!!

Thanks Still...it will be a quiet weekend- H has the kids  :(
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