[nah]

If it wasn't for the kids I don't think we would communicate at all and he indeed would be a vanisher....

That's not always a bad thing.

[in it]

No kidding wish the ex had been after 1st BD 

[patience.of.a.saint]

Funny how they are about the pictures. Mine was here one day and wanted to know if the photo albums were all his. The ones he was referring to were our road trip books and they had pics of us together in some of them and the other ones we took as family trips have more pics of my kids. I don't usually buy souvenirs, so instead, I order hundreds of photos as my souvenir. I take the pics, do all the edits, all the ordering, and put them in the books. It's MY thing...I gave him the fastest, big, fat NO on taking those.

I almost forgot...last time he was to the house, I went off to use the bathroom and heard something fall in the living room. When I came back, he was sitting on the couch with his hands in his hoodie pocket, but I have yet to figure out what the heck he took. After that, I decided he wouldn't be coming to the house to visit unless the kids were home too.

[terrified_in_TN]

In my case, just about everything made sense somewhat...

Since she threw her stuff in the car and drove two states away, she was limited in what she could take.  Clothes mainly.  Left most everything behind.

I figured she'd come back around on the divorce and get some more stuff.  Although we are still going thru this divorce crap, my spouse did state some items she wanted in the proposal.  Very little, actually (she just wants the money).  Again, this makes perfect sense to me because when she left her first X, she wanted very little as well then...said it would have been a reminder of him, and she wanted to start fresh.  I imagine the same scenario is playing out now...she wants very little to remind her of our life together.

Okay, now all of that said...she took one particular outfit that boggles my mind.  It was an outfit I bought her when we were first dating.  She can't fit in it anymore-hasn't been able to in a LONG LONG time, but she had kept it all these years.  That one item baffles me.  I still remember when she left she said she didn't want it...yet I saw it in the trunk of the car...

-T

[in it]

I didn't get to take anything with me this time.And it has helped in the moving on process.

I didnt have choice.I wasn't going to deal with him anymore.

[Absolutely Fabulous]

Funny, mine came to get his stuff out of the house after the fact, but it was too late foreclosure had already taken place and the bank had started to clear out the house.

He was upset about it. Crazy part is, he came back home Christmas/June hearing and barely took anything. He put other stuff in storage. Stuff we didn't want, and claimed it was for the kids. I still don't get that one.

He also still has the other key to the car. This coming from someone that claims that he's not coming back. I guess the car is the only anchor he has left.

[Difrent]

There's only one thing she's taken that really bothers me... it's a handcrafted wooden bucket just the right size for holding a bottle of wine that we picked up in a quaint village during our Eastern European vacation last year. There's a little story behind it, and I loved that thing. She took it for some kind of wine and cheese real estate open house, but it never returned. I decided to ask for it, and she ignored the request twice. Finally, she said, "I'm sorry. I need it." I said, "you need it? You don't need it. You gave it to HER, didn't you?"

She didn't deny it. Our vacation, our memory, our bucket. But no... she gave it to the predator.

Have to confess, this hurts.

[bipolared]

There's only one thing she's taken that really bothers me... it's a handcrafted wooden bucket just the right size for holding a bottle of wine that we picked up in a quaint village during our Eastern European vacation last year. There's a little story behind it, and I loved that thing. She took it for some kind of wine and cheese real estate open house, but it never returned. I decided to ask for it, and she ignored the request twice. Finally, she said, "I'm sorry. I need it." I said, "you need it? You don't need it. You gave it to HER, didn't you?"

She didn't deny it. Our vacation, our memory, our bucket. But no... she gave it to the predator.

Have to confess, this hurts.

They can be pretty cruel in that respect.  I have heard of MLCers taking OPs to honeymoon and vacation spots that they went to with the LBS.  I don't know if they are trying to recreate something, or perhaps it is some viciousness on the part of the OP.  I'm sorry you have had that happen.

[Snowdrop]

Through the window I saw him pilfering the pantry.  In his bag he hid 5 new tubes of toothpaste.  I walked inside and asked him what he was doing.  He screamed, "they're mine and I'll take them if I want."

[hawk]

She left our wedding album to , her mum gave her that album.
l had no idea what to do with anything and it hurt too much to touch any of it so l just kept cleaning around all of it until packing up the house.
Like Thunder said though , l must've just been ready by then but l didn't wanna talk to w about what to do with any of it.
So l came up with a brainwave when l remembered w had a sun room just inside the back door and then another door into the house from there so from in the house you didn't see out into the sun room.
So as l came and went for d, l just dropped off more and more stuff into that sun room including the wedding album. l kept a few but left most in tact.

So that went on for two wks . l suppose wife would just go out to the sun room for something and see another pile of stuff there each time.
We never spoke one word about it and l didn't ask what she wanted l just kept throwing it into that sun room and let her deal with it.
But then came the couch , l didn't want it and l wasn't gonna ask her about it. So l went early for d one day and just chucked it on the deck before wife got home and thought there , have a couch.

Wasn't a bad plan really and kept the whole thing pretty painless..