[Medusa]

3, I have nothing against the Corps. It gave us a very good life. I am not vindictive about things (let's ignore the airplane incident, shall we?).

He thought I was intentionally keeping a ceramic Christmas tree his mom made. I wasn't; I just forgot where it was stored. When I gave it to him last year whje we met to try to figure out our separation  agreement, he said at the end of the meeting if he'd known I had it in my care earlier, he'd have gone easier on me. 

I will not get rid of any of his things for one reason: I am not going to be in a position where he suddenly wants something stupid and blames me for getting rid of it.

Army, you're early on. They go both ways with things.

[nah]

I will not get rid of any of his things for one reason: I am not going to be in a position where he suddenly wants something stupid and blames me for getting rid of it.

I often call my husband the textbook MLCer but he does seem different in this way.  He never tried to hurt me financially, in fact he has been quite generous.  Mostly, though, I almost always had the upper-hand, I was kind but also would talk down to him, treat him like a child and he would respond.  It was so strange that he never asked for his $3,000 bike but in a message about something else asked if I had his $50.00 helmet b/c he wanted to ride again.  I responded matter of factly that I got rid of all his stuff b/c he left.

His response was, "oh, ok, just thought I would ask"  Almost like HE was apologizing. 

[Absolutely Fabulous]

Hey Medusa, I left his stuff at the house, because I've been accused of everything but the cruxifiction. LOL Truth be known, I just couldn't afford the storage space for all of his stuff with ours. I have our OD's stuff stored there as well.

He threw me under the bus throughout the years, even though I had his back the entire marriage. This time, I just couldn't afford to save him from his mess. It was a matter of economics.

Glad you had fun with the Corps. I guess I just wasn't made for military life. I did the best I could, and I managed well. But in my case, STBX wanted to isolate me from my friends and family. He was really selfish, and self-centered. He saw any individuality as a threat. He comes from one of those enmeshed families, so me being me was a no no. Besides with all the financial abuse I facing now, he really is beside himself. I won't be the damsel in distress, and as LP stated on another thread: he's dealing with cognitive dissonance. He's so dual minded at this point that he not only can't think straight, but he can't understand why I'm not "falling in line".

He once admitted that when he wanted to do something, he just pulled me along. Just like he did his marines. I guess he couldn't separate being a Marine from being a husband/father. Well, nothing lasts forever. His career ended, and he destroyed his marriage all within a few years of each other.

[MsMedfly]

Wow.. and I thought mine was crazy...

He snuck back to the house, on a weekday, four days post AI and took the "good" clothes, the new ones that we'd purchased since the crazy diet last year.. Left all of the others. He took everything of value, important documents, guns, cash in the safe, motorcycle, convertible, a few pics of his mom and grandparents.. I came home and thought we'd been robbed! He wouldn't answer the phone, I had no idea what was going on.. Two weeks later, he shows up with papers..

Since then, he's managed to take just about everything. It's all his!! And of course, wants more! What's odd though - he has this pillow.. He's had it for more than 20 years.. Sleeps with it.. He LEFT IT!!! I of course, took it when I moved.. But that pillow has been out of the country, camping, all over the U.S... Why leave it???

There is still a ton of stuff, that is his, in the garage and in the office closet.. I was angry one day, sick of seeing the "rest" of his clothes in the closet so I packed them.. with open candle wax bars, lining the bottom of the boxes.. His stuff is all in un-airconditioned storage.. has been since July!!! I realize in the grand scheme of things, it's not a huge victory.. But at the time, I felt like I'd just won the war!

What's strange is h took his wedding ring off almost immediately! But still wears the leather and silver anchor bracelet that I gave him a week before AI on our anniversary! Odd.. It's an anchor...

[Savoir Faire]

Just saw this thread and thought I'd comment.

My H wanted everything he could see but I moved out before he got most if it.  If you follow my thread, you will see my MLCer is money/possession obsessed.

The only thing H demanded which he had left in the house was his wedding ring!!  Just prior to BD, he couldn't get the thing off fast enough (OW was involved at the time and it would have been unfair to wear a wedding ring in front of her    ) 

He left all the photographs due to guilt.  I know this is true because S22 had them in a huge case.  H stuck up for me and said to leave them with me because he knew how much they meant to me.  I saw a glimpse of the old H that day.

[Velika]

Aside from clothing and toiletries, mine took:

New hiking backpack I had purchased for him while I was away.
Djembe drum that had gone untouched for over a decade.
Spanish guitar. (Hadn't played for years.)
Metal cup I gave him as a gift after he told me water tastes better from a metal cup.
Small portable speaker set he gave me as a 38th birthday present.
Coffee grinder.

And that's it! Supplies for a new life/camping trip.

[Faithful]

Besides his clothes and personal items, the only thing mine wanted were his guns and a picture. He came when I was gone and took his laundry basket.  I emailed him and told him he promised the guns to his younger daughter. He left them.

[ember]

When mine left, the police were there so he could only take what he could shove into a bag. He never took any of his stuff until I threatened to give it all to goodwill when I was packing up and moving out of the house.  The only thing he did take was out of spite. He knew I was going to be putting up drywall over Spring break and he took my drill the night before when he had stayed over with the kids while I was at work. How juvenile. I had to go buy a brand new drill.  Talk about passive aggressive!!

[RoseTint]

Mustard.
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Why, yes!  You read that right.  Mustard.  After he moved out, but before I changed locks, he came in while I was gone & took it.  I went to use it & poof, no mustard, LOL!  Gives new meaning to the phrase "yellow bellied b*st*rd, doesn't it"?

[MyBrainIsBroken]

My wife also left most of the photos behind. I don't know why. She took one album full of school pictures of our daughters and said she was going to use it for a scrapbooking project she was working on with D35. And D32 came to me spitting fire one day because she said her mother had taken a whole bunch of pictures of me with my family before she and I had met. Neither of us have a clue why she took them. Maybe it was an accident. If anyone has any ideas I'd like to hear them. This is another one of those things she's done that I can't figure out but I'm sure there's a perfectly good irrational explanation for it.