[Mamma Bear]

  LIW,  I meant good chocolate for inexpensive price. Not "cheap" like as in "Cheap Ho"

[Faith]

For the last two Valentines Days, H brought home a little bunch of flowers for me and the girls.  Identical for all 3 of us.  Actually last year he gave them to us the day before because he had planned to go snowmobiling with his friends all day on Valentines Day  .  On V Day I took the girls out for supper and to a movie while H snowmobiled.  Of course this was when he was living in the basement and had long ago proclaimed himself "single".

Valentines Day has never been a big deal in our marriage because H always said he shouldn't have to feel "forced" to show love on a certain day because Hallmark tells him to, so I don't really have any emotion attached to it.  I'll get my girls a little treat or something to try to brighten their day, and if it works that will brighten mine. 

[NoRegrets]

Roses are red,
Violets are blue.
Don't gotta get a Valentine gift for a skanky homewrecker ho,
How about you.

[Chloe1977]

2 years ago I spent my Valentine's Day packing up H's crap into boxes and shoving the boxes into the closet.
 I made the house we were renting at the time totally mine. I rearranged stuff the way I wanted it and that was that.

He came over to drop the boys off and gave me a huge heart shape box of Dove chocolates (one of my favorites) from "the boys" as he put it. Later he told his best friend (whom he was living with at the time) that I hadn't gotten him anything except a little cheap box of chocolates with a kid's cartoon character on it plus I'd packed up all his stuff. 
He was confused and actually a little hurt by this   
His best friend (who is also one of my best friends and has done extremely well with remaining neutral as much as possible) asked him "what did you expect? for her to hold on forever? you admitted 3 days ago to having a girlfriend which she has known about since you left." I'm pretty sure these are direct quotes but pretty close. So 2 years ago I showed my H that I am my own person and that he is a kid in a lot of ways. I'm sure he won't admit that right now but all that matters is that I know this. Last year, V-Day past without regard.

I got the boys little boxes of chocolates and that was it.
This year will be a little different. The boys school does candy-grams where they deliver chocolates to the kids from their parents, teachers, friends, etc.
It raises money from the school and makes the kids feel good. I'm sending both my boys candy-grams to be delivered to them in class on V-Day. We can't do anything really costly (money is really tight for me right now) but it will still be a nice V-Day for them and me. Don't care what H does.
Only care about me and the boys.
If he wants to join us that's fine (he does live here) but I have a feeling that he'll be "working late" that day.
His loss.

EDIT - Carriage Returns for readability - OldPilot

[forthetrees]

Just read this article: http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201112/are-you-the-right-mate

Basically, it says that unless the mate is a drug addict, alcoholic, serial cheater or abusive, there is a way to work it out.

Of course, it explores the need for both parties to be willing to discuss the issues.

Thought it´d be good V-day fare for all of us LBS tired of the BS.

[Love being on higher grounds]

I havent read the entire thread, but this being my 3rd year of Valentines w/o my spouse, Im not expecting anything...

Depending on the moods tomorrow, I may recognize it, in simple talk, not much else

hugs,
L

[Sands]

  Just Saying........

[NoRegrets]

Enjoyed taking my S15 out tonight to help him get gifts together for his adorable girlfriend. Trying to teach him early on how to treat a lady--and she's a lady.

Indulged myself in a tiny sliver of self pity then realized that my lack of a valentine this year says a lot more about my H than it does about me.

[Shantilly Lace]

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