[stayed]

Actually, several of you posted several times... we have 3,331 members!  I think 20 are not that many.  I think most people go to the internet now to investigate MOST everything... I know I do.  I also go to the internet to check my facts... to prove my points.  Heck, I was brought up to believe that Winnie the Poo was written by a Canadian.  NOT SO!  As I had been told this many years before I ever had a computer, it never occurred to me to double check that premise.  As far as I can tell Winnie was named after a Winnipeg Regiment stationed in Britain... if I recall correctly, damn, need to check it out again... lol! 

Definitely not a teacher here! 

hugs Stayed

[Medusa]

Definitely not a teacher here!

I beg to differ.

At some point, we hang around here long enough and all of us become teachers in some fashion.

Oh yeah, and while parents may not be certified or have a bunch of letters after their name, they are all teachers, too.

Of course, some of them could have used some help...

[OldPilot]

 we have 3,331 members!  I think 20 are not that many. 

We have just over 1400 members who have posted and about the same amount of people that have been active in the last year, all though that is not the same group of people since many of those active in the last year have never posted.

Yes agreed this is a very small sampling.

[Anjae]

My math is not that great but I think 20 out of 1400 is something like 1,4 % of the board.

There are probably more stay at home mums/wives than teachers in the board.

In the sense Medusa gave to being a teacher, yes, everyone in the board is a teacher. Same for parents.

[Reinventing]

Yes, MLC doesn't seem to be confined to MLCer or LBS professions, personalities, and other categories. We see a lot of variety on this board, and I'm sure with all the lurkers it is an even wider swath of variety.

[Onward]

Absolutely true. Though the original question was only posed because just now, among members actively posting on active threads, it seemed like there was a pattern of a number of people involved in teaching, particularly in higher ed.  

It wasn't intended to be a scan of all members over time, or any kind of valuation, or a survey or an hypothesis on the likelihood of having or dealing with MLC or anything scientific. Just having a little fun observing something that a number of folks appeared to have in common at this particular snapshot in time.  

[Medusa]

Early on, I saw a list of contributing factors that can trigger MLC and the one that stood out for me was military retirement.

Occasionally I'm surprised they there aren't more of us whose spouse is returned military posting. I can think of 5 off the top of my head.

[Hmmm]

Three of them are in my H's family!

[stayed]

25 years as a Military Wife.  Retired as a full colonel on the brink of becoming a General, a huge dream.  In fact, had completed a couple of masters degree's simultaneously... life seemed to be going in the direction he had always dreamed of. 

Go figure? 

Hugs Stayed

[MyBrainIsBroken]

25 years as a Military Wife.  Retired as a full colonel on the brink of becoming a General, a huge dream.  In fact, had completed a couple of masters degree's simultaneously... life seemed to be going in the direction he had always dreamed of.

This is interesting because RCR writes about the MLCer having been an accomodator who never knew who they were or what they wanted from life. This doesn't sound like the description of an accomodator.

In Accommodation a person places their center outside of themselves, living life through others. Midlife is a tug-of-war as their true center pulls for inner balance. For MLCers there is a backswing after years of Accommodating and the process of self-centering involves first becoming selfish. In crisis, they are like a top spinning off balance in a clumsy wobble; the midlife journey brings a persons Self and inner balance into alignment.

I've definitely seen this with my wife. Before BD she told one daughter that she felt like she hadn't ever accomplished anything with her life and told the other that she didn't know who she was. After BD she told me that she didn't want to be a wife, mother, grandmother, she wanted to be herself, but she didn't know who she was. Since then I've seen her trying things she would never try before like going on ferris wheels, cutting her hair shorter, and eating lobster.

Stayed, did you see any of this type of identity confusion with your husband? Anyone else see it?