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Any midlife crisis victims who can share their experiences during their transition

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#60: March 22, 2016, 10:56:47 PM
Quote from: sewing22 on March 22, 2016, 10:45:57 PM
I was pissed off at how I lost my family and my life.
I don't doubt this and I suspect you may have also been a little hurt that your husband didn't look past the surface and try to understand what you were going through.
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Re: Any person here who has had a Midlife crisis? Insights for LBS😳
#61: March 25, 2016, 11:17:15 AM
Attaching and reading along. X
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#62: October 22, 2016, 01:02:58 PM
Quote from: Samurai on March 14, 2016, 11:24:22 AM
I think the difference between MLC and a simply bad marriage is that before MLC the sun is shining, the sky is blue, and the next day they wake up not loving us anymore and can't see any way that we will be together again. Without even trying to fix any problems.

Sorry Ive dragged this one up, Ive been having a read through and just found it,

What you say there is is exactly what my X done, went to bed one night with the sweet loving person I shared warm sexy relationship with for 11 years and woke the next morning with someone different, it destroyed part of me I dont think I'll ever get back
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Re: Any person here who has had a Midlife crisis? Insights for LBS😳
#63: October 27, 2016, 02:56:02 PM
 I just found this thread too. Is there any update. It seems it ended in march!
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#64: October 27, 2016, 03:59:11 PM
Wow what a great thread, one of the most useful by far (for a newbie).

I'm realising that in the few days post bomb drop, the way my H acted was real - he was v. v depressed, said he felt numb, no feeling, was craving excitement (messages flirting with OW) and that he couldn't even feel for his family - he felt he was acting.  I think it was covert depression suddenly surfacing. But then he left and when he reappeared a week later it was like he had pushed all this down inside him and did the whole 'don't love you' 'I have to go' and ran. He's still running, he's in replay and Sewings descriptions of feelings, covert depression etc is so insightful.

So glad I found this thread!
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#65: October 29, 2016, 08:41:53 AM
Hellllllo!! Is Sewing22 still here??? I was curious if she thought there was much difference in male and female MLCers?
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