[How long have you and your spouse been together/married]

How long have you and your spouse been together/married

5-10 years

8 (7.2%)

10-15 years

11 (9.9%)

15-20 years

35 (31.5%)

20-25 years

24 (21.6%)

25-30 years

19 (17.1%)

Over 30 years

14 (12.6%)

Total Members Voted: 111

[Searching4Answers]

We had 15 years in the beginning of the year - BD was in December.

[heroIam]

Married 15 years when BD occurred.

[Anjae]

19 years and 7 months. We had been together 10 years before we married, 3 of those living together. Early March would be 30 years for us.

[HopeFaithLove]

Married for 22 years. Were together 2 years before that.

[OntheEdge]

were married 14 years / together 21

divorce (11-9-16) 2yrs post BD (9-6-14)

[Never say never]

Married 18 years and two months when I found out about it.  There was no BD.  I saw it on the computer ... who knows how long it had been going on.

[nah]

When you find out about it is the BD.

[Roma]

I don't think Never H said ILYBNILWY or anything like that, right Never? Did you just google his symptoms?

[Thunder]

Never found out about ow on the computer or the phone.

[barbiedoll]

I 1st met him when we were both 14 . In highschool. We both went on to marry others and both of us divorced after 4 years . He was cheated on, his wife turned up pregnant by another man . My 1st husband was alcoholic. My husband dropped the bomb somewhere around ( or on ) our 27th wedding anniversary, late april 2013. I remember our anniversary, my birthday and Mothers Day being a trip thru hell. OW birthday is a day after mine . She got flowers . BLAH BLAH... stupid to remember these things still.  I discovered the OW by complete flukey intuition and a dream... 1 week before he returned home . It had been going on for 9 months . So, there is some proof that the second I knew ... he put her back in the garbage dumpster where he found her .