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#10: January 09, 2017, 11:05:23 AM
I love this idea.   Wish I could read it now!  What a book this is going to be.   ♡♡♡
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Re: A Request The Voices In A Book : The Beginning
#11: January 09, 2017, 12:08:27 PM
How awesome that you have risen out of a place of deep pain and decided to do something to benefit all of us survivors. I admire your grit and wish you the best of luck. I can't wait to see the finished product.
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Re: A Request The Voices In A Book : The Beginning
#12: January 09, 2017, 03:31:04 PM
What an amazing gift you will give to others going through this journey.  I look forward to reading it myself.
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Re: A Request The Voices In A Book : The Beginning
#13: January 09, 2017, 05:59:33 PM
Ask away.
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Re: A Request The Voices In A Book : The Beginning
#14: January 10, 2017, 03:57:56 AM
Love it!
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Re: A Request The Voices In A Book : The Beginning
#15: January 10, 2017, 06:12:04 AM
Looking forward to it, though like your H I wish it was fantasy, ask away , attaching
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Re: A Request The Voices In A Book : The Beginning
#16: January 10, 2017, 07:12:01 AM
So happy to help.  :D Glad you are going to bring more awareness to the people left behind.  Now if only we can get someone to find a cure!!! :o

Good luck.  You have our support.

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Re: A Request The Voices In A Book : The Beginning
#17: January 10, 2017, 07:18:23 AM
We have a group of us who were going to get together and write a book about MLC.  Each one was going to do a chapter.   :)

Hope you can write something to help people understand this better.
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Re: A Request The Voices In A Book : The Beginning
#18: January 12, 2017, 05:35:09 AM
I am soo moved by the responses to my post !!  It confirms that I am on the path I was designed to take and I feel just a tad more confident ! It is a huge undertaking for someone like me ... ordinary person , not a writer . Yet.  But more and more things fall out of the universe to tell me to move forward . Slowly. Today will be a rather difficult day . I have a piano bench that will no longer close from a collection of" writing out the pain ".. stuff on stickies, stuff I tore apart in rage now shoved into a baggy to be pieced back to together . So, today , I will open the bench and organize some of my thoughts as I travelled this journey . Some of the scribblings are over 2 years old and I am afraid to feel all that again. I am afraid ... but going to walk right thru it anyway. Thanks over and over for the support and confidence in me !. Stay tuned as I need to tap into all of your hearts as I move forward .
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Re: A Request The Voices In A Book : The Beginning
#19: January 12, 2017, 07:48:18 AM
Quote from: Searching4Answers on January 09, 2017, 07:51:03 AM
Wow barbiedoll - how brave and scary.
Quote from: barbiedoll on January 12, 2017, 05:35:09 AM
I have a piano bench that will no longer close from a collection of" writing out the pain ".. stuff on stickies, stuff I tore apart in rage now shoved into a baggy to be pieced back to together . So, today , I will open the bench and organize some of my thoughts as I travelled this journey . Some of the scribblings are over 2 years old and I am afraid to feel all that again. I am afraid ... but going to walk right thru it anyway.

This is the exact reason that I commented on how brave you are!

We all revisit the pain willingly or unwillingly - however, you are choosing to get intimate with it. 

Good luck to you barbiedoll - you are one strong woman!
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