[nah]

No more discussion needed, I just found the secret tape from a MLC convention.  All questions answered.


http://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=finding+nemo+mine+mine+mine+birds&view=detail&mid=5CA6F0FE474F3D0DD0535CA6F0FE474F3D0DD053&FORM=VIRE

[OneHotMess]

No more discussion needed, I just found the secret tape from a MLC convention.  All questions answered.


http://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=finding+nemo+mine+mine+mine+birds&view=detail&mid=5CA6F0FE474F3D0DD0535CA6F0FE474F3D0DD053&FORM=VIRE

Lmao!!! Thanks nah!!! I needed that!!

[Never say never]

LMAO also, Nah!!  Thanks for ending my night on a happy note!!

[stillbaffled]

BAHAHA......I enjoyed that!!   

[FaithWalker]

No more discussion needed, I just found the secret tape from a MLC convention.  All questions answered.


http://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=finding+nemo+mine+mine+mine+birds&view=detail&mid=5CA6F0FE474F3D0DD0535CA6F0FE474F3D0DD053&FORM=VIRE

How come we don't have a rolling on floor laughing emoji?

ROFL!

[BrenM]

Thanks for the laugh Nah.....yes 'THEY' are the only ones in their life during MLC. 

[What now]

Hahaha, nah, so true.

My MLCer didn't give me any reasons, tended to tell everyone else.

What he told me
*I love you but it would work better if we weren't together (when he first wanted to move out)
*You're the only fat girl I've ever stayed with (wtf?! I was a UK size 12 when he said this, US size 10 and i suffer from PCOS)
*You're a b!Tch. Everyone thinks you are. Even SS24 (of course he thinks i am, I'm the one who sets him boundaries)
*It's not you, it's me
*my head's a mess, i feel like i did when we first met (he was an angry person)
*I don't want you around when i lose it (i didn't press this)
*I'm lost


What he told others
*She kicked me out on Christmas Eve which is evil
*I was planning on leaving for weeks
*I was planning on leaving for months
*I was planning on leaving for years
*We were separated months
*We were separated years and she knows it
*The house was a mess
*She wouldnt let the dog on the sofa
*She wouldn't let the dog in the bed
*She controlled everything
*She controlled the kids too much
*She let the kids get away with everything
*We only stayed together for you and your brother (said to D9)

I'm sure that there's more but this is what I've heard.

I'm glad I read this thread. His mum was in a series of abusive relationships and he always felt bad for not being able to defend her. She did always put her boyfriends above her sons (according to MLCer). Since BD, he did get close to her then stopped being as close and is calling her out on a lot of things.

His dad abandoned him time and again throughout his childhood and young adulthood. He rekindled a relationship with him when he was 36/37 from the age of 19. He felt abandoned by his dad again just before BD and i think this was the straw that broke the camel's back.

It's good to have some kind of understanding about what replay is about. ow was in an abusive relationship with her ex, she isn't a very good mum-she leaves her kids with her mum the majority of the time to spend time with him and she is manipulative (said by MLCer himself)-all traits held by his mum.

[Whyus]

W finally got in touch with an old GF of hers. She is also my S18s Gfs Mother. She knows whats going on.
She has been telling me for years that im crap around the house and dont do enough - sure I could have done more but I done stuff which has obviously not been seen. She just sees what she has done. Sure she complained now and again but nothing to make you think it was a gamechanger!
I worked most days from 7 -18 O Clock because W said it was about time I got a promotion. I was being pressured to working more hours and then expected to do all the housework too!
I done all the shopping, including spotting the best offers available. I always took the rubbish out and sorted old paperwaste. I cleaned the cat litter if the boys (forgot) again. I filled and emptied the dish washer. I put the vacuum over the floors (only when she told me too though to be honest). I always lighted and fed the fireplace when it was cold. We cleaned the windows together. We done all the online banking together because its quicker. I cooked when I had the time, mostly weekends. I done all the driving when one of the boys needed a ride. Her coffee was waiting for her everyday when she woke. Weekends the breakfast table was always waiting when she woke. ... she has forgotten all this apparently

[TryMe!]

W finally got in touch with an old GF of hers. She is also my S18s Gfs Mother. She knows whats going on.
She has been telling me for years that im crap around the house and dont do enough - sure I could have done more but I done stuff which has obviously not been seen. She just sees what she has done. Sure she complained now and again but nothing to make you think it was a gamechanger!

Whyus, do you have your own thread? I'd like to reply to your posts, but I don't want to hijjack this thread. Your situation sounds very familiar to mine but I see some "don't do's!" in your story.

[Nas]

..Me and a friend have asked this many times but the most recent question with us is why do they also stall with child support even though courts order them to pay up ?

I don't think most MLCers are as complicated as we make them out to be.  They're going through a selfish phase and really don't like to think about anything or anybody but themselves.  Child support??  meh.  Not something they want to think about so they ignore it, just like everything else.

Yes, yes, yes!  I've had so many people, even people in my life who don't know about MLC or don't believe in it, who are suggesting my H is avoiding me and not following up on the D paperwork he sent me in November because he's confused, scared, lost, struggling, doesn't really want the D or any other number of reasons.

I personally think it boils down to he doesn't actually want to honor the agreement he already signed or pay me what he agreed to pay.
He's not paying his bills either, but he's golfing like crazy.  I think that about sums it up.
He wants to golf and eat out and spend his money like a teenager with no responsibilities.