[How long since bomb drop?]

How long since bomb drop?

0 to 1 years

32 (36.4%)

1 to 2 years

32 (36.4%)

2 to 3 years

16 (18.2%)

3 to 4 years

5 (5.7%)

4+ years

3 (3.4%)

Total Members Voted: 86

[In this for ME]

Bomb Drop June 28th 2010
I had to leave due to life treatened I left
July 1st 2010
Bought and closed on a house and was in it by July 12th 2010

[In this for ME]

Just to let you know,, I submitted my vote but didn't see any results after it was submitted.

[In this for ME]

Never mind I got them! 

[LoveMeMyself]

Well, looks like 47 of us voted on the Bomb Drop poll and the majority of us are between the one year and two year mark.  Wow, I guess we still have a ways to go. Hard to believe how my time has gone by since the initial BD.  I just hope I will start seeing some changes soon.  I hope the rest of you start seeing more as well.

[In this for ME]

You know I'm wondering:
Looking back I am pretty sure all of this started for my exH 10 years ago anyway.

 Have I read that  BD is usually around the middle of the MLC?? I'm I correct in my reading?

In my case (and I know everyone is different) I'm thinking he fought tooth and nail not to feel like this and staved all of this off for almost that entire duration until ExOW appeared on the scene. And BANG there goes the bomb.
Now she is out of the picture and he travels (and has traveled) like the speed of light through this part.
Is it possible this BD came more at the end of or at least some resolution of the crisis? Any imput?

[trusting]

As of Wednesday I can change my vote to the 2-3 year mark.   Not sure if I can do that with the poll or not, but there it is.  Blech.

[Still]

I wonder how the numbers would change if we looked at noticeable changes in personality prior to BD.

I know almost to the day when my H began to change. It was almost a year before bomb drop. His was triggered by a serious health issue at a marathon. He hasn't been the same since.

Oddly, my D10 was talking with my D24 the other day. D10 told her that she wished Dad was the way he was before he ran that race the year we went on a specific vacation. I don't talk about this in front of them so it isn't from overhearing me.

[OldPilot]

Well, looks like 47 of us voted on the Bomb Drop poll and the majority of us are between the one year and two year mark. 

Considering there are around 540 registered users, 1/2 of them have at least 1 post, I am not sure that 47 responses is so great yet.
Also considering that this website will be 1 year old in May, the statistics seem to follow the group of us that have been on the website.

My first bomb drop will be over two years in May, my second one was only 3 months ago.
So my point is that Bomb Drop is not always at a consistant time within the crisis and can happen in replay or any time after up until the breaking of withdrawal.

[LoveMeMyself]

In this for the Long Haul,

    I don't have an answer for you but when my exH left  (two months after BD) he later told me that this has been on his mind for at least two years!  Said he was trying his best to be "happy" but it wasn't working.  I have sat for endless hours going back in my mind trying to "see it" or find "signs" of his unhappiness but I couldn't find anything remotely close............not until perhaps about 6 months prior to BD. 

[trusting]

My H started changing very noticeably four months prior to BD and very gradually for months leading up to it, maybe even a full year.