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#90: November 26, 2017, 04:15:38 PM
Chriss, maybe she is paying for everything.
Who cares??

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#91: November 26, 2017, 04:24:55 PM
true Thunder, my daughter told me that apparently he feels really bad that she has a paid off home and he has nothing to offer HER, what about his kids???? so he's taking the money that is 'owed' him to put toward a property so that he can show he's not the loser that he feels nevermind his x family.  Meanwhile he's told my daughters school he won't be paying her school fees (5th yr in a row) ::)
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#92: November 26, 2017, 04:35:24 PM
Well Chriss, you can't fix stupid.   ::) ::)
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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 12
#93: November 26, 2017, 07:22:57 PM
Quote from: MsMedfly on November 26, 2017, 03:36:18 PM

Next up- ow....Ah yes , the married ow with 2 kids.. Who dumped him when he left me, to go back to her h, only to leave him a year later for puffy. Her kids hate him. Shocking, most people do!! It's now ended. She just lived too far away....

It's 45 minutes.....


Thanks for the laugh, MsMed.   ;D   

The craziness that just never ends......

I'll go look for my stretchy pants.   ;)

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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 12
#94: November 30, 2017, 10:36:48 PM
Does anyone feel that their vanishing spouse loves them less than others who have a clinging boomerang or a live-in?
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T: 18  M: 12 (at BD) No kids.
H diagnosed with severe depression Oct 15. BD May 16. OW since April 16, maybe earlier. Silent vanisher mostly.
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#95: December 01, 2017, 02:26:26 AM
I feel that I don't think he actually had any love for me , I look upon our marriage and I can't see a time I felt his love for a number of years and very little respect for me . It now feels it was a lie for years , I wonder now if he was cheating for a number of years and this was an exit affair ,,, to hide away from me without wanting any communication, I feel he hates me and always did , so maybe I am better off without him ,, it still sucks to feel so degraded and not good enough ,, how are you supposed to move on when you never felt worthy in the first place ,, it's very hard, xx
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#96: December 01, 2017, 03:05:40 AM
I'm sorry, monty, we all go back and look at the past...but it's important too to not let this crisis rewrite your own reality and it can take a while to get that clear in your mind, IMHO.

I do not doubt that my H truly and deeply loved me until 2015. Not for a moment. I remember his face with love lighting up his eyes. Now? I have no idea if he even thinks of me at all, let alone how. The curse of silence maybe.
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T: 18  M: 12 (at BD) No kids.
H diagnosed with severe depression Oct 15. BD May 16. OW since April 16, maybe earlier. Silent vanisher mostly.
Divorced April 18. XH married ow 6 weeks later.


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#97: December 01, 2017, 03:23:05 AM
is 'i love u as the mother of my kids' the same as ilybinilwy?? the other freaky thing he would do is hang on the ledge of the bed non stop on the ph, thought he was a teenager always wanted to be out nothing pleased him whinge whinge whinge non stop if you would do something he wanted it was never good enough, he'd  complain about that too, blamed me for everything and anything so I stopped givin him the time of day.
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#98: December 01, 2017, 04:23:10 AM
Chriss, I think it is.

Mine never gave me the ILYBINILWY speech, but a few weeks after bd I said I don't understand how you can just stop loving someone.
His answer was...who ever said I don't love you?

I took that to mean..ok, like a sister?  Or a cousin. maybe?    :(
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#99: December 01, 2017, 04:27:35 AM
Before this mlc, he was so scared I would find someone else and leave HIM now he's done to me what he thought I would do to him, he told a close friend of mine he loves me as the mother of his kids then when she asked him 'is that all'? no response.
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