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MLC Monster A common variable?
OP: March 27, 2011, 07:32:10 AM
Okay,
This is going to sound a bit weird and a tad "out there", but in our mini-gathering yesterday, I said that I had heard a story on NPR (natl. public radio) about the sexual abuse of altar boys and it had made me wonder about my spouse having been possibly abused as a boy. AS SOON AS  I said that my H had been an altar boy, both Letting Go and Buggy chimed in SIMULTANEOUSLY with, "Mine was an altar boy." This has me wondering.

So, throwing it out there- were your H´s altar boys and do you think that there is the possibilty of abuse in the past? (Could also have occurred in the scouting organizations).

Extrapolate to dropping testosterone, not having addressed the past abuse (if it happened) and questioning of their sexual identity as a facet of the identity questions overall. Ya gotta start with a theory/hypothesis somewhere.

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Re: A common variable?
#1: March 27, 2011, 07:38:53 AM
FFT

Not thought of this but my H was an Altar boy as well  :-\

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Re: A common variable?
#2: March 27, 2011, 07:56:16 AM
I shudder to think..yes he was too,.
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Re: A common variable?
#3: March 27, 2011, 09:24:41 AM
My H was sexually abused by his FATHER......all the siblings were.  He will not talk of specifics and has never sought out professional help......I am certain it is playing a part into all this madness..

H father actually died about 24 years ago at the age of 46.... My H just turned 45 early Feb....and had a horrible birthday emotional wise, he even verbally stated.....I could be dead this time next year like my dad.  After his birthday...he became very withdrawn, and moved out (like a thief in the night)on Feb. 19.....BD on the phone the next day.....coward!!!

I KNOW this abuse has and does have a profound impact on him.....that he will not address.

Did any of you see Oprahs show on male abuse....very powerful.  Might be on YouTube....look it up.


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Re: A common variable?
#4: March 27, 2011, 09:55:20 AM
Hi my H was an altar boy as well.

Never really spoke much about it though. Weird isn't it.
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Re: A common variable?
#5: March 27, 2011, 10:41:07 AM
My H was not an altar boy, but he was verbally/psychologically abused by his stepfather. I am not sure about any sexual abuse. My H has no recollection of most of his childhood. He can't name any of his teachers or friends in elementary school. That can certainly be indicative of childhood trauma.
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Re: A common variable?
#6: March 27, 2011, 10:51:14 AM
My H was not a Altor boy,

But he was abused emotionally and physically  by his Father.
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Re: A common variable?
#7: March 27, 2011, 11:29:52 AM
Wow - my husband sang in a school choir (don't think he was an Altar Boy) - he also was part of a local Theatre Group. His Dad was/is a verbally abuse angry workaholic (but who can be very sweet). Classic Passive Agressive behaviour I belive??

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Re: A common variable?
#8: March 27, 2011, 11:32:58 AM
My H was not a Altor boy,

But he was abused emotionally and physically  by his Father.
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Re: A common variable?
#9: March 27, 2011, 11:51:06 AM
Looks to me a common thread...........I knew there was something to it.......had to be...............did anyones H get therapy for it?
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