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« Latest by FrenchHusband on May 16, 2024, 02:57:22 AM »Quote from: UrsaMajor
And you were able to influence her housing situation in Switzerland how?Yes it is right, I don't even know where is her housing, I thought she had rented something in France.
Logic is a skill that MLC'ers seem to have a distinct lack of...
Now I see I am a bit shaken by the new change in the living arrangements. Even if I anticipated it a long time ago, the reality is still striking. And the children also are shaken, especially D17 who is unusually aggressive towards me the last days. Yesterday evening, I saw that I was shaken, and it helped me a bit to get back my balance.
I am right now facing a dilemma : W told me first that she will go in S Thursday (today), and come back on Sunday. Then she sent me a message saying that there is no way she can come back Sunday evening, instead she comes back Monday at 12:30. I checked the company and actually there are still flight seats Sunday 7pm and Monday 7:20 am. So my intuition is telling me there is a big lie. I know that OM's day off is on Monday, addind 2+2 is not difficult, and I guess they plan to spend time together in S. Now, what I do with this information ?
1) : I go to the airport and I take a picture of them (if possible unknown from them)
2) : I ask someone to go the airport and take a picture from them
3 ) : I inform the bishop or his deputy that OM (a priest) and my wife will spend time together in Switzerland
4) : I tell W that I am aware of her plans
5) : I do nothing
Do you see other options ? At this time I am asking for advice. I have asked my lawyer, and as a lawyer he advised me to do nothing (because an action will likely deteriorate the separation), as a friend (and Christian) he told me there are pros and cons.
At this time my opinion is rather the option 5 : do nothing. But it is difficult, I confess, to be able to do something and choose not to do. My mind is racing. Last time I had a similar dilemma, I finally chose to act against the advices from the forum here, and as foretrees had predicted, my action bit me in the ass.
Regarding separation/divorce topic, the lawyer told me that he received a mail telling that, as there in no progress, she will likely file. I asked my lawyer to write to W's lawyer that we are open to discussion, and ask (again) what is W's proposal ? I understand that (as in many stories) W is wanting me to do the job of the legal papers. W is likely not happy with me not doing it (as expected), but I don't care. What could she do ? Divorce ? She is already divorcing . My only fight is for the children and for the finances, so that we are able to stay in the house. And, from this point of view, W's choice of abandoning us is good news for me, again confirmed by my lawyer.