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Our Community / Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 8
« Last post by Thunder on Today at 01:03:45 PM »
Thank you Shock.

You have pretty special sister there.

Love to you both.   :)
Our Community / Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 8
« Last post by forthetrees on Today at 12:59:28 PM »
For sure she has already accomplished that.
Our Community / Re: Get Through Today
« Last post by Rosetintedglasses on Today at 12:57:12 PM »
Hey Music lovely lady.

Lovely to hear from you but also not. We get you, we hear you, we understand you and we stand shoulder to shoulder with you.

That’s so bad about him going overseas. My H went away for a few days, he did tell us but it’s hard knowing he has this ‘other life’ that seems to be all fun and not needing or missing us. Also who is he with.

All we can do is take our eyes off them and look at ourselves. It’ll have been too difficult to tell you he was going away so he didn’t. Took the easy route, as they do.

Look at the good things, him being in touch with the kids is good. And daily is good. He knows this is unfair on you so isnt in touch so as to not feel the guilt but that only works for a while. It’s a cycle and the longer he’s not in touch the more thinking time he has.

I feel better knowing nothing and then when I hear what he’s up to I start thinking about it all. If you hadn’t had to call him you would feel better today wouldn’t you?!

Please PM me if you need to, you are doing so good.
Rose 🌹
Our Community / Re: Reconnecting & Rebuilding 4
« Last post by Cherry Blossom on Today at 12:56:58 PM »
Following along Acorn...
Our Community / Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 8
« Last post by Shockandawe on Today at 12:51:47 PM »
Hello Sam

She’s made of pretty tough stuff my sister lol.
She very often says if she can help only one person gain some understanding of the nightmare which is mlc then she has done something right.
I know she helps me daily and I will never be able to thank her enough.

God bless you all

Our Community / Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 8
« Last post by Sam I Am on Today at 12:43:58 PM »
Understood.  I can and will respect that boundary!

I for one am very appreciative of all your sister has offered and all she has endured since speaking up on this forum!
Our Community / Re: I forgot that you existed
« Last post by Schratz66 on Today at 12:39:30 PM »
geez - what a week indeed - I blame the moon...glad the foot is getting better - I hope the ID will turn up as magically as it disappeared and I did have to chuckle that dad had to spend hours at the movies with a heard of teenage boys...bahahahahaha…. I wouldn't wish that on anyone, but if it had to be someone, I am glad it was him.

And I love your description of MOO2...deranged.... :) lights on but nobody home.....hehe....I bet you are right on the money - quite frankly no decent person would keep showing up at your church ….so she might be homeless....awwwwwww, what a shame

Our Community / Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 8
« Last post by Shockandawe on Today at 12:39:17 PM »
Hello everyone, Shock here,

I have been reading through this thread and I think it’s about time everyone understands that my sister has made up her mind about the fact she will explain things to her ex h when she feels the time is right, NOT for her but for him.
As for Anjae somehow getting the idea my sister was in MLC for only a year and a half I have no idea where that came from. It was 4 years also she said she wished mlc was medically recognised NOT for the mlcer but to protect the lbser from a rampant mlcer who signs legal paper work which could financially damage the lbser. She was prescribed meds but flushed them down the toilet as she didn’t think there was anything wrong with her. So no, to have it medically recognised would be of no use to the mlcer it would be of massive use to the lbser.
I spoke to her earlier today and it seems to me that the same old ground keeps getting hauled out again and again. The decision to talk to and apologise is hers and hers alone.
Our own Father went through mlc but I didn’t though my sister did. The fact she is older and must have been affected more profoundly than I which in turn to my understanding anyway, meant this was predestined to happen.
All I know is she is a massive part of my life and my support. Without her I wouldn’t have the understanding she has given me and for that I am eternally grateful. The fact she does this for others is something she gives back and is always completely honest and open with her responses.
As her sister I am asking for everyone to respect her wishes and accept the fact she will not have discuss with her and x h anything that is in anyway an explanation but has repeatedly said she intends to do so when the time is right.
She will continue to answer questions to the best of her ability but will not answer any more about the whole apology topic.
I know my sister was a different person during her mlc. I know she is back and is the person I have known my whole life.
She is a good and kind person who went through something which not only devastated her ex h but destroyed her life too. I know that no one would do that by choice and it would be pretty outrageous of me to even think someone would knowingly be so cruel as to choose to do so.

God bless you all

Our Community / Re: Shocks sis recovered MLCer 8
« Last post by megogirl on Today at 12:24:16 PM »
Involuntary manslaughter does not mean the murder was not at fault.

No I know - what I actually said was that it was IMPLIED they were not at fault.  Hence the word "involuntary".
Our Community / Re: Insert Clever Title here....
« Last post by Music45 on Today at 12:18:27 PM »
Schratz, I hear you. Sounds to me like you coped with today a whole lot better than you would have done not so long ago. That's progress. Keep doing what you're doing.
I've not had a great day either, I know exactly how you feel.
Hang in there.
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