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My H told me that any chance of us getting back together were gone cuz he thought I was cheating on him  ??? He had already  been living somewhere else for 6 weeks and I wasn't seeing anyone.
He moved back in with us and is still seeing OW. Says he doesn't want to be married but we are. Been back in the house for 21 months.
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Wow- good thread!
I heard "I love you but in a different way, more like a friend!"
H told me he would always love me but not like a "WIFE"- such confusion going on there!

Glad to know it was just words but when you hear them it is devastating
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Chloe...

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Been back in the house for 21 months.
  Is he likeable or do you have the desire to have him knocked off at times?


Crazy...

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Wow- good thread!


Thank you, but OMR is the one that deserves the credit. 

Everyone your replies have helped me to see it's part of the script.  Sassy, FTT, and OMR already told me that, but those words were like a cancer on my soul, and hurt so deeply.

It makes me happy to know seeking answers regarding my own issues has helped others on the same painful journey.
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« Last Edit: March 02, 2012, 07:01:06 PM by Tsunami »
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but those words were like a cancer on my soul, and hurt so deeply.

I haven't gotten passed a lot of the stuff he said. And it's more than a year ago that he said those horrible awful gut wrenching things.

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Is it ego or spirit that governs us to question the answers; or answer the questions?

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but those words were like a cancer on my soul, and hurt so deeply.

I haven't gotten passed a lot of the stuff he said. And it's more than a year ago that he said those horrible awful gut wrenching things.

Mine said he didn't want to be married, and didn't know when he would be back. He wouldn't promise anything, except financial support. I suppose I should be grateful.

Yes, the problem is that so much of the stuff they say seems to poison the soul. Even now he is back, professes love, has apologised, and doesn't want me to go away, he seems to have no idea of how much he has hurt me. It's hard to forget. I have hard time personally of getting over those gut wrenching things. I'm trying to work on it.
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Work in progress (none of us are perfect)

 

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