[Tsunami]

While speaking with OMR today, she suggessted I start this thread to see how many of you were threatened with comments like this.....

"I have no intentions to continue on with our marriage, so if you're hanging around hoping things will change then you are doing yourself a great injustice."

Did your MLCér keep the threat or change their mind at a later date?

[LoveMeMyself]

Tsunami,

   As you probably know, I'm divorced from mine and he said that to me several times before everything was final.  More recently, he hasn't so much said those exact words but he has told me he will never marry again.  He states that just seeing me causes him a great deal of pain and his thoughts of guilt and shame still haunts him.  He has also mentioned recently that I should date someone.......but that was in reference to a person I was telling him would probably like to date my sister but she's not interested so he asked why I didn't date him.  Well, the answer was: 1). Because I wouldn't go out with anybody who wants to date my sister, and 2). Because he lives in another State.  Ha, ha.

[L&S]

Shortly after BD, my MLCer told me that maybe we could get back together in eight years.  What a random number???  Of course, then he vanished.  Who knows where or if I'll be in eight years.  He sounded pretty angry when he said it too - I must have been begging and pleading still at that point, though I gave up the fight very, very soon after and just let him go 150%.     I remember thinking, "eight years!?!?", I'll be dead in a month.  Well, that didn't happen.

[Patience]

I don't recall the exact words, but he swore the marriage was over.  He said he would never be married again.  It wasn't in him, blah, blah, blah.  Today he has been home for 16 months.  He is thru his MLC and settling down.  Those words are part of the script.

Think about how many MLCers threaten divorce and don't follow thru. 

[Tsunami]

Thank you ladies, and especially Patience for...."Those words are part of the script."

Honestly, that is what I was hoping to hear.  OMR told me they all say they are done with the marriage.

Mine has filed for divorce, but it is on hold until March 2013, so I will have medical benefits for life without cost. 

Monster is making me want to start posting again. I'm feeling insecure suddenly even though I fully believe in The Process.

[Rollercoasterider]

Tsunami,

Sweetheart said it too. He said it directly, but he didn't need to say it in words since filing for divorce has that meaning too!

But you know how it turned out.

[Shantilly Lace]

Mine did too. Never would return never never. Swore black and blue as he walked out the door  how much he hated me now and how awful I was.

And although with ow guess where he lives? Well he lives Nowhere really but he calls here home and that he lives here. Go figure.

Script

[Sassyone]

Tsunami:

Hugs sweetie.  I know you are scared and hurting.  It is part of the script.  Have you read the depression list that was posted on several threads today.  If not, go read it.  I am sure you will see your H in it.

Take care of yourself and focus on you.  Did you get out in that sunshine today! 

My H told me he loved me like his sister, his friend, ILBNINLWY, etc.  It is part of the script.  It hurts, its projection.

Thinking of you.  Lets talk soon.

Sassy

[Little Chief]

Tsunami, I didn't get the "I won't be back" speech, but something related...my H told my kids he was going to get them beds for his new place and a dresser and they would stay with him every weekend.  They visited his place approximately 4 times, and now he comes out here every weekend, and during the week.  S9 has asked to go to his place and he finds a way to avoid doing that. 

Just remember the words that come out of their mouths are not supported by a functioning brain.

[Sassyone]

Amen LC!

Just remember the words that come out of their mouths are not supported by a functioning brain.

So true!

Sassy