[Thunder]

You know nah, your H sounded a lot like mine.  Never Monstered or called me names, etc., I would bet if he hadn't found this girl he possibly would have come out of his crisis and been ok.

Having an alienator in their ear just complicated things so much.   

[nah]

Yes, but mine was the type to find someone, if he didn't find this one, it just would have been another.

He was in a band, big boss with money, and access to many women.

Even this alienator he has, she's never said a peep to me.  I've seen her twice, she just turns her back and looks at the ground like she's afraid of me.  .   She's not as crazy as some of the ones I read about on here. 
Of course, she's pathetic, they are all pathetic, just not over the scales like some of them.

I stil have a strong feeling, he's not done.  There will be more drama in the future,... I can feel it.

[Thunder]

Hey, mine looked nah, trust me.  He is also a very good looking guy who women are always checking out.  He should have had no problem getting women, it just never happened for what ever reason.  Maybe wrong place, wrong time  idk

But it could have turned out completely different.

More drama in the future  Ya think?   

[Treasur]

I'm not sure about everybody else, but I didn't get the typical "monster" that many LBSers talk about...
We don't have many conversations with the vanishers, and maybe that's why...

Same for me, xh said nothing much but that he felt nothing, was ill and wanted me not to give up on him/us....and then announced that divorce was the only option by text. I only recently got a bit of monster spew linked to his divorce. Mostly he's said nothing to me about anything. I assume he's said little or more negative things to others.

Five years of different experiences.  He's no longer someone I am proud to be connected to,...
So for me, it's not the things he did, even to me.  It's the person he has become.
If I thought he was the same man, I probably would still be standing.

Less time for me, but you've put your finger right on how I feel, Nah, as you often do. When I stopped believing that the man I knew was still in there and looked at who he is now...standing made no sense at all to me.

I'd like to mourn my H gracefully...just need XH to stop d!cking around and go away. 
It's funny because there was a time when I wished my H cared enough about my existence to cling or even monster...until I met monster.

[nah]

I'd like to mourn my H gracefully...just need XH to stop d!cking around and go away. 

Time will tell... mine just keeps popping up. It’s been a few months, so he’s due.

Lately, I stay generally neutral, just to see what he will do.

Kind of like a MLC experiment. Must be the scientist in me. 

[Milly]

I'm a bit like Thunder, I think that if my H had not crossed paths with this very determined OW, he might have got through his crisis. My H too is very good looking and worked away every week since we married but never ever cheated before. In fact, I heard through his first lady lawyer, who used to go out with him and friends in Milan his work town, that all the women looked at him and couldn't believe he would be alone and not make a move.

I feel I'm at a point where how I behave right now might determine where my H heads next. I just posted so I won't repeat here.

[Shocked]

Thanks Nah for your comforting words! I have not had any contact since my Ds graduation last May. Even then I never saw him and he left early so not to interact. Is he a coward or avoider or a vanisher? He’s still in Lala land. And I’m better off not hearing about his crazy.

[Nas]

Thanks Nah for your comforting words! I have not had any contact since my Ds graduation last May. Even then I never saw him and he left early so not to interact. Is he a coward or avoider or a vanisher? He’s still in Lala land. And I’m better off not hearing about his crazy.

Sounds like quite a coward to me. 

[stillbaffled]

Thanks Nah for your comforting words! I have not had any contact since my Ds graduation last May. Even then I never saw him and he left early so not to interact. Is he a coward or avoider or a vanisher? He’s still in Lala land. And I’m better off not hearing about his crazy.

Sounds like quite a coward to me.

He's a first cousin to my MLCer!  I've had one text message since last August.  He asked if he could go on my property to get something he wanted! 

[nah]

Is he a coward or avoider or a vanisher?

He's like the rest,,, He avoids and vanishes b/c he's a coward.

A cow-void-sher.