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#120: September 09, 2018, 07:50:19 PM
X filed pretty much straight away couldn't wait to divorce me, he had a wedding to plan!, Im wondering if its the hag that pushed him or if it was his doing desperate to make it work with someone else, either way who cares they deserve each other, both retarded.
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Re: Anyone else with a Vanisher #18
#121: September 09, 2018, 08:48:18 PM
The good thing about a vanisher.... once the divorce is done, ...

Peace. :D
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Re: Anyone else with a Vanisher #18
#122: September 09, 2018, 08:52:48 PM
Quote from: nah on September 09, 2018, 08:48:18 PM
The good thing about a vanisher.... once the divorce is done, ...

Peace. :D

Yes peace at last Nah, he ALWAYS LOVED drama, I could never understand it, loved to pick fights like a child, he's pretty much lived like that all his life, a total wreck from his childhood, hope he's like that with his wife, what a pathetic existance they both live
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Re: Anyone else with a Vanisher #18
#123: September 09, 2018, 10:24:02 PM
Ow likes drama, she gets none from me. Must be bored sh***less xx
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Ow 16 yrs younger, no children never been married. co worker. EA turned to PA and lives with ow
Divorce bomb drop by him 31/8/17 by solicitor letter after being caught by ow at lunch with me 3 wk earlier. Finances Not yet finalised.
Crazy divorce started by him.
Clinging boomerang for 3 yrs now Vanisher but  twice a yr pops his head up. ow has balls in a vice!
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Re: Anyone else with a Vanisher #18
#124: September 09, 2018, 10:47:28 PM
Not sure divorce gave me peace but an end to the hand grenades certainly
And my xh's speedy remarriage - although it hurt like hell as a last WTF -  certainly brought an end to any monkey braining about if i would ever see my h again as it's a such an uncrossable line
And I think there is a kind of peace in giving up hope for answers, apologies or anything from them actually.
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Re: Anyone else with a Vanisher #18
#125: September 09, 2018, 11:19:00 PM
So true Treasure, 'the book' is closed THE END.
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Re: Anyone else with a Vanisher #18
#126: September 11, 2018, 04:16:07 PM
Hey Vanisher thread Im back (been away for a year) my Vanisher is still vanished (no surprises there then) and we are now divorced. I don't actually want him back but I'm still interested in the MLC journey and would still quite like the satisfaction of hearing 'regret' or some vindication one day - ahhh to dream..

I've probably missed about 10 threads but attaching - what have I missed? :)
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Re: Anyone else with a Vanisher #18
#127: September 11, 2018, 04:40:33 PM
You haven't missed much as there aren't a lot of updates with vanishers lol...

Glad to hear about your new bf!
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Re: Anyone else with a Vanisher #18
#128: September 11, 2018, 05:47:47 PM
Quote from: sparklestar on September 11, 2018, 04:16:07 PM
Hey Vanisher thread Im back (been away for a year) my Vanisher is still vanished (no surprises there then) and we are now divorced. I don't actually want him back but I'm still interested in the MLC journey and would still quite like the satisfaction of hearing 'regret' or some vindication one day - ahhh to dream..

I've probably missed about 10 threads but attaching - what have I missed? :)

Welcome back Sparklestar exactly what u wrote!
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Re: Anyone else with a Vanisher #18
#129: September 11, 2018, 06:26:15 PM
Hi sparklestar,

You haven't miss much. Nas vanisher got in touch with her, Mr J has been sending one or two e-mails a years.

Even if there is no divorce having a vanisher is peace. Having had a clinger in the early years, when I made Mr J vanish - because I cut him off, peace start to come.

Not at once, since he didn't like to had been cut off and run for court all the time.

I am still interested in the MLC process, but I think not as much as I used to be.

A regret is not that important to me. Having my money and assets back is.
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