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Discussion Re: Anyone else with a Vanisher #18
#150: September 29, 2018, 11:39:08 PM
Quote from: OffRoad on September 29, 2018, 10:54:35 PM


Why would dual lodging work better for him, anyway? (not that you care, I'm just curious). The financials are already done, what does it matter?

To satisfy his conscience and to share the blame of the marriage breakup.  They really are so confused when they are within the tunnel.


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Re: Anyone else with a Vanisher #18
#151: September 29, 2018, 11:40:58 PM
Spot on B!

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Re: Anyone else with a Vanisher #18
#152: September 30, 2018, 02:38:53 AM
how these losers live with themselves ill never know, especially the ones who take off vanish and remarry, does it ever occur to them the the scale of destruction they've caused especially in regards to the kids??? what a pathetic life they must live.
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Re: Anyone else with a Vanisher #18
#153: September 30, 2018, 04:19:54 AM
Would someone like to start a new Vanisher thread?



New thread:  https://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=10418.0
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"From my experience if my H had let me go a long time ago, and stop pressuring me, begging, and pleading and just let go I possibly would have experienced my awakening sooner than I did."
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