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#60: October 15, 2018, 12:24:01 PM
Nah has inspired me to write my own book about STBXW.  I think I will call it:  She.Said.Far.Too.Many.Words ;D
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She has scheduled mediation Feb 7,  2018
I moved out March 16, 2018
Several mediations, mostly instigated by me.  Foot dragging by STBXW.  Nothing filed. Yet.
5/2019 STBXW filed D behind my back despite signed agreement to mediate.
I retain attorney.
STBXW still hasn't told me and no further action.
Elephant in the room has been addressed.  No further action atm.  Weighing my options.
12/16/19  She files financial paperwork.  Divorce proceeding.
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Re: My Book - He.Never.Said.A.Word
#61: October 15, 2018, 12:37:25 PM
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Know any good proofreaders?   :)

No I do it all myself..  :-\ I have a pretty keen eye for reading and writing. I've been writing this one book for the last 5 years at least. I'm on my dozen-th or so re-write right now  ;D I think I'm on my final version. Fingers crossed.
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Re: My Book - He.Never.Said.A.Word
#62: October 15, 2018, 02:42:54 PM
Quote from: Disillusioned on October 15, 2018, 12:24:01 PM
Nah has inspired me to write my own book about STBXW.  I think I will call it:  She.Said.Far.Too.Many.Words ;D

Omg,... I just spit out my drink.  ;D ;D ;D
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Re: My Book - He.Never.Said.A.Word
#63: October 15, 2018, 03:24:09 PM
Chapter 1:  In Which Pooh Learns How to Burn All The Bridges
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Atomic BD June 17 Spying revealed OM at work
Still home.  Threatened to leave several times and has asked me to leave about a dozen. 
Says divorce proceedings will start Jan 18.
She has scheduled mediation Feb 7,  2018
I moved out March 16, 2018
Several mediations, mostly instigated by me.  Foot dragging by STBXW.  Nothing filed. Yet.
5/2019 STBXW filed D behind my back despite signed agreement to mediate.
I retain attorney.
STBXW still hasn't told me and no further action.
Elephant in the room has been addressed.  No further action atm.  Weighing my options.
12/16/19  She files financial paperwork.  Divorce proceeding.
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#64: October 15, 2018, 05:53:07 PM
Dis, you're making me laugh!   ;D

I'll buy it.
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Re: My Book - He.Never.Said.A.Word
#65: October 15, 2018, 09:19:07 PM
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IM  curious as to what some opinions are from people that haven't experienced what we all have. When they read it , do they feel the pain? do they understand it?

I imagine it feels awesome to get your side of the story out.  It's something I've dreamed about since the beginning.   How to correct the impression family & friends have based solely on what the MLCer has told them.   

I know I was painted with a very flawed brush.  It's likely why so many people are able to say something to  the MLCer like, "oh you poor man - you needed to leave and you deserve to be happy!"   It's probably why a lot of people take sides with the betrayer believing the tall tales about the evil wife.   

All the while, my MLCer said to me (and still says), "it was a good marriage but something was missing".   Poor man took all that 'something missing' with him when he left and now he says he  will never be happy.  I tend to agree with him. 

You've done something big to get your truth out and at the same time it must have been quite cathartic for you.   Have to admit I'm a little envious.   :P 



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Re: My Book - He.Never.Said.A.Word
#66: October 16, 2018, 04:45:10 AM
Quote from: Anon on October 15, 2018, 09:19:07 PM
I imagine it feels awesome to get your side of the story out.  It's something I've dreamed about since the beginning.   

That's step one.

(1) Dream it.
(2) Plan it.
(3) Do it.

Quote from: Anon on October 15, 2018, 09:19:07 PM
Have to admit I'm a little envious.   :P 

Good!!  Channel that feeling and make it happen for you.

I'm not a professional writer (obviously by some of the comments... ;D ;D ). 

So?

Still didn't stop me.

I've done so many things, so many things that the biggest challenge of the book was cutting out so many juicy stories.  I couldn't write about everything.  90% of the things I did since he left, I had a million reasons why it couldn't be done.  Let's face it, there really is only one reason it really can't be done, it can't be done if you don't at least try.

I've had so many people make comments over the years that they could never do the things I have done because...

"I don't have enough money".... I worked crazy fire trucking over time, 60-80 hours a week, and then would squeeze in working on the house I was left.  I just didn't sleep, not healthy but it was how I did it.

"I'm too afraid".... Me too!  Wicked Firetrucking afraid.  Being brave isn't about not having fears, it's about facing them.

"I'm too shy".... "The Leaver" was my first boyfriend because I couldn't even look at boys I was so shy.  I didn't even go to my high school prom because of my shyness.

"I'm too old, too fat, too ugly"....  All in our heads.  We are what we want to be.

Travel to that Destination, Wear the Dress, Kiss that Guy and Write that Book!!

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Re: My Book - He.Never.Said.A.Word
#67: October 16, 2018, 05:00:31 PM
Can I borrow your chainsaw?!? 

The part where you share how little ole' you took care of that downed tree that MLCer had ignored just makes me smile. 

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Re: My Book - He.Never.Said.A.Word
#68: October 16, 2018, 06:10:18 PM
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Can I borrow your chainsaw?!? 

The part where you share how little ole' you took care of that downed tree that MLCer had ignored just makes me smile.

Haha.... wish I could, I sold it, along with everything else.

For a little more fun with that chapter, play the title.  Every chapter title is a song title and that song is one of my favorites.  :)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FJfFZqTlWrQ

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Re: My Book - He.Never.Said.A.Word
#69: October 16, 2018, 09:19:26 PM
Congrats on the book Nah!!!!  You should write, you do have a gift. I like what Anon said about getting their story out. I think we all would like to be validated that we have lived thru crazy!!! We want the world to recognize that there is a very serious issue of MLC. It’s not a joke about a paunching 50 yo man buying the red sports car looking for 20 yo. It is so much more devastating and derisive than that. The consequences of this affliction are so life altering for so many. I want to shout protect, support and believe the LBS but once again it makes the LBS look like the crazy ones.
Thanks for trying to let us be heard and recognized!!!!
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