[How do your MLCers explain themselves? Check all that apply]

How do your MLCers explain themselves? Check all that apply

I love you but I’m not in love with you.

I'm unhappy and I have to figure out why

I need space

I'm numb, I don't feel anything

It is my time to be selfish.

I need to know if I'm going to miss you

I don't even know why I married you.

We have nothing in common.

You are so controlling.

You were so cold to me.

[limitless]

Rememberer!
That was the one my H told me and the kids - on the the day he left.

My S16 (at the time) - looked at his father, shook his head, and said, "You know, Dad, all I am hearing you say is me, me, me."  I was proud of my Son for saying that!

L

[readytofixmyselffirst]

My favorite: "I've always been good and told to to the right thing. For once, I want to be bad. Don't I deserve that?"
 I responded that most murderers only kill once. Yet, the courts don't let them get away with one murder for being good most of their lives.

[limitless]

Ready,
Good comeback - but probably didn't get through to her.
L

[trusting]

" I've been doing for everyone my whole life, taking care of everything... now it's time for me."

I got that, too.  And also along the same lines.

"I don't want to be responsible anymore."

[Dontgiveup]

I did not hear the "I love you, but am not in love with you".......rather I heard something that had more projection in it.  My ex-wife told me that I never loved her.  In a counseling session, the counselor asked her if she loved me.  Her response was she didn't know.

I later talked with my counselor about that and he said her answer of "I don't know" is a perfectly acceptable answer from someone in MLC.

I definitely heard many of the rest of the MLCer lines verbatim......we have nothing in common.....I knew we should not have married.......tired of responsibility, etc.

[justasking]

I've just thought of a few more.

'Our marriage has come to it's natural end!' Wasn't party to that discussion but OW was.

'I don't feel any further forward now than I did at 13 years' That is actually quite an right 21 months on. He has no money, no wife, no children, no home and not much future as it stands today. So I agree with that line.

'You always belittle me in front of our friends'

'I loved you very much but not at all now'.

Phew 

xx

[Rebel Yell]

I don't think Pumpkin is in MLC, I only heard about 90% of those lines.

[Glimmer]

Rememberer

My H said exactly the same thing. Word for word.  Along with some others.

I love you, but not as much as I should do.
I have been bored for 4 years.
I wasn't particularly unhappy, just not happy!!!
We have nothing in common.
We have never had a conversation.
I have never had a youth.
I just wanted to do things for me.

Being a clinging boomerang, during a touch and go I usually get

I want to work towards coming back home.
Please don't give up on me.
You do know I have always loved you.
I just can't stay away.
I hate what my life has become.
I want to work things out between us.
I miss you.

[trusting]

Yes, they very clearly all got the same script when the jumped on board the MLC bandwagon. 

It would be nice if someone rewrote the script.

[wondering]

"It is, what it is"