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MLC Monster How long since BD?
OP: April 20, 2011, 02:58:02 PM
I'm curious... How long has It been since BD for all of us? I think it would be interesting to see where everyone is and the process in our journey... Not to "compare", but rather to read sitches and follow the journey of strength that only time unfortunately forces you to do...

For me: 13 months... 14 months since I knew something was not right and the start of the affair.
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H : 38
D20, D11, D7
BD 3/18/10
Found about OW 3/21/10
H moved out 5/13/10
5/16/10 OW found her fiancee hanging over their A
5/31/10 I miscarried our baby
10/1/10 H moved in with OW
10/13/10 I filed for D
I/5/11 H started to see me several times a week.
11/21/11 H moved home
in and out of mental institutes
2 /17/12 I filed a restraing order
3/8/12 H filed a D
D finalized 2/12/13
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Re: How long since BD?
#1: April 20, 2011, 03:09:29 PM
25 months since BD, 30 months since I knew something was really wrong, and in hindsight it was probably a year prior to that H started his decline into MLC.

Yikes - those numbers look even worse on paper than in my head! :)
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Re: How long since BD?
#2: April 20, 2011, 03:33:23 PM
10 months
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Re: How long since BD?
#3: April 20, 2011, 03:35:09 PM
Lol, When I first started with all of this, I couldn't even imagine me doing this a year from then.... I was "supposed" to make a decision! Everyone asked me what was my "plan"...They just didn't get that my decision was not to make a decision, lol. I got to say though... I can't believe how fast this year really went now.
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me : 44
H : 38
D20, D11, D7
BD 3/18/10
Found about OW 3/21/10
H moved out 5/13/10
5/16/10 OW found her fiancee hanging over their A
5/31/10 I miscarried our baby
10/1/10 H moved in with OW
10/13/10 I filed for D
I/5/11 H started to see me several times a week.
11/21/11 H moved home
in and out of mental institutes
2 /17/12 I filed a restraing order
3/8/12 H filed a D
D finalized 2/12/13
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Re: How long since BD?
#4: April 20, 2011, 03:46:13 PM
Mine is 22  months since he first left (no idea that there was OW) 20 months since BD and 19 months since he felt to live with her.

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Re: How long since BD?
#5: April 20, 2011, 03:50:09 PM
11 months since BD
8 months since he left
Found out about affair 2 months ago
Affair was from at least 8/09 to 9/10.

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Re: How long since BD?
#6: April 20, 2011, 04:02:52 PM
BD #1   -   23 months
She Filed 5 months ago.
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Re: How long since BD?
#7: April 20, 2011, 04:09:21 PM
OMR-
Yeah- this was some kind of 10 months for me too.It seemed to fly but take a
r-e-a-l-l-y long time to do it.
I don't think I can entertain another whole year- not apart like this anyway. I might have to just shut the door. I'm willing to give this until July but if I don't get the feeling it's going to progress I'll have to go into self presevation mode.

I can't imagine two years or more-
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Re: How long since BD?
#8: April 20, 2011, 04:10:25 PM
8 months
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Re: How long since BD?
#9: April 20, 2011, 04:12:39 PM
BD #1: 12/08
BD #2: 10/09
BD #3: 12/09 + found out about affair with OW

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