[Nas]

Inspired by Ready2Transform's thread...

Just something to shift the focus here a bit to US.

What are your LBS goals (and/or how have they shifted over time)? 

I'm 4.5 years in.
My goals at the moment are:
1) To continue to fight cancer and do things to help my health (daily exercise, healthy diet, etc)
2) To get to a stable place health-wise and find a job that will allow me to support myself but not adversely affect my health
3) To stop thinking that the fact that I currently can't support myself makes me "less than."

My nephew opened a piece of Dove chocolate the other day - there are positive messages written on the inside of each foil-wrapped chocolate.  He has been practicing his reading and improving daily.
He opened the chocolate and excitedly read to me:
"Auntie Nas, "Don't stop until you're proud."

YUP.

And I look forward to shifting my goals as my situation shifts.

[KeepItTogether]

Oh Nas--I love this! And I love your goals. I'll have to give it some thought but wanted to attach and of course comment that one of my goals is now that you continue to fight cancer and do things to help your health.

Your nephew sounds awesome by the way!

[Nas]

Aww, thanks KIT! 
Lol, my nephew IS awesome.  He's the coolest almost-eight-year-old I know.  Not that I'm biased at all...

[Father5]

Great discussion thread Nas.


1. Speak my mind to everyone. My opinion matters, all to often I would give to get along.

2. Become happy with myself and know that I have self-worth. 

3. Figure out what I REALLY want out of life and go get it.

 These all sound cliche ! But that is what I am working on.

[Anjae]

I'm only a LBS here. The LBS concept does not exist in my real world. Pretty much no one around me knows a thing of what happened.

Currantly my only goal is to go with the flow.

[barbiedoll]

Great subject Nas!   I hope I qualify to participate even though I am not truly a LBS. I actually "feel" many of the same issues ..I often feel very alone, powerless to change certain things, confused and angry.  My husband is "here" but in so many ways , he really is not. He continues to wrestle with MLC and even he admits that there is truth in that.

1. I need to FULLY focus on ME. Almost selfishly. On my health ( I never feel well) on exercise and eating far better. I need to re-commit to this daily as I am very unsuccessful in starting ( and keeping) new lifestyles.

2. I need to continue to detach...from my husband and in fact other people that are not good for me ( my mother etc) . To understand that I do not need to react to other people. Continue to change only me in ways that will bring peace and acceptance.

3. To focus more on my book as I am very determined to do this . To "take" time to creatively write insead of always putting it at the end of my to do

I am sure I could list 10 more ...but this would be a great starting place.

[Ready2Transform]

I love this so much! The good vibe meter coming off of this thread is totally in the red.

1. I need to break down my big goals into small, achievable tasks. I used to do this a lot, but I've been in a funk. I know a little momentum in the right direction will go a long way.
2. I need a CAR. I won't get one tomorrow, but I can start feeling out exactly what I want so it's more likely soon.
3. Wintertime workout schedule so I am more likely to start 2020 on the right foot. 2020 guys!! How weird does that sound?! 2020 Vision!

[PJ Ames]

Figure out what I REALLY want out of life and go get it.

This is great, Father5. This is my only goal for the year. For a long time I did what I HAD to do. Now my kids are grown, my xW is gone and there's no reason I can't do what I want. But it's been so long since I've thought about what I wanted that I'm not sure how to anymore. Time to learn again.

[FIRETRUCK]

In a nutshell, PJ.
FIRETRUCK

[AlvinTheMaker]

For me....

#1 ) growing up from within
I am beginning to understand how unfinished of a person I was and still am.    I've already done a lot of changes to become better man, but I know this will become a lifelong process.  Right now my big work in progress is to learn to letting go of anxiety and worry (=fears of unknown future, need to control my life), and just learning to live and enjoy the present moment regardless of what life throws at me.... It is kind of funny how I can already "taste it" in my mouth.   I know it will do nothing but good for me.... Another subgoal is learning to show love for myself.  Like so many here, I have placed the needs of others ahead of mine (jeesh, I'm beginning to sound like my W, LOL). 

#2 ) losing weight / getting back to shape
it will serve my physical wellbeing regardless of what happens in life