[Milly]

Oh, Threeboys, that sounds really miserable. I'm so sorry. Glad the boys are not too bad. I hope you start recovering really soon.xxx

Re: MLCer and Coronavirus, my H hasn't been in contact with S the last three days. When he did contact it was not to ask if we were ok but just to make silly jokes.

[3Boys4Me]

Thanks Milly, both my S14 and I woke up feeling it in our chest today, it’s painful and nerve wracking. What we were told is that the most severe cases are ending up in the hospital about three weeks after the onset of symptoms. I am day 10, my son is day 4 - so far, it’s crummy but manageable, today i am feeling a little out of breath, so will watch it carefully. I appreciate the sentiment about the comparison with the flu - it doesn’t feel like the flu to me, it also doesn’t feel like a cold, for us it is an entirely different animal - both my son and I have terrible headaches, my son is describing it both as painful but like his head is in a fog - hard time stringing thoughts together.
The body aches are different too - it is like our back, chest, shoulders and throat are totally locked up, very sore, no aches at all in the lower body. It’s weird. I can’t compare it to anything else I’ve ever had...

Last night MLCer checked in with S15 by text, asked him how he was doing then asked about me and S14. He has yet to ask me directly how I am, but has asked a couple of times through the boys - probably only because I have it...

[Seahorse]

3 boys -
I am also so sorry that you're feeling unwell.
Please don't wait too long to contact your doctor if your symptoms progress.

I believe that the MLCer cannot give us the impression that they care about us - which makes sense because they really don't, I guess.
I'm sorry for that, but at least he's concerned about your sons.

Do you have someone to watch the kids in the event that you become severely ill?
Try to have everything lined up --  just in case.
The lat thing you need is to scramble while feeling ill.

Hugs and feel better.

[Milly]

Oh, I'm really sorry, 3boys. Are you in contact with your doctor?  Do they give you any advice on how to take care of yourselves? I know here they say it's important to move and sit up, not lie flat.  Seahorse had some really good advice, too.
Please keep us informed. xxxx

[3Boys4Me]

Hi Milly and Sea, yes, we are in touch with our doctors. There is no treatment so tellers basic instructions are hydrate, rest, acetaminophen for pain but don%u2019t try to bring the fever down under 102. Laying down makes the cough and chest pain worse, so sleeping in a reclining position propped up by many pillows, have had chills, so have been staying wrapped in blankets. Today is the worst day so far. I have my oldest son who could stay home if necessary and also a few siblings in the area, s14 has it too though, and s15 had symptoms for two days so they believe he likely also had it - he probably got it first. 

S14 has slept for about 16 hours starlight, he just got up and is having a bite to eat. We will be fine, I do have help if I need it, I imagine we will turn it around any time now.

[Seahorse]

3Boys - also tylenol is good - no non-steroidals like Advil, Aleve, (ibuprofen or naproxen).

Hugs,
Sea

[jazzy03]

My xh and I were in no contact for 2.5 months.

He reached out this week, not because of the virus, but because of the earthquake that happened in my area. I am okay and better than I was a few days ago for sure!  He asked how I was okay and made sure I checked certain things. We texted most of the day. The virus did come up. He seemed pretty paranoid and anxious about it. He lives alone, but the ow seems to still be around. Apparently she's sick all the time and he's avoiding people now. lol.

So far nothing else. Seemed to be a touch and go. Back in the tunnel he goes.

[hopeandfaith]

I am observing mine with interest.  As we are reconnecting, it is interesting to see how he handles a crisis.  The last crisis (besides his) that we faced was during 911 when the company he worked for collapsed on the same day (Airline).  That went under administration soon after and he was only out of work for 2 weeks.  It didn't settle down for 11 months and during that time he wore a path pacing under our patio while chain smoking and drinking.

This time, he is drinking and I don't think he is smoking. Yesterday was the first time I've heard him pace.  Both H and my daughter are in the airline industry so we're seeing and expecting some heavy changes, we just don't know what yet.  He has been away all week so he hasn't had his family to lean on and he seems to have had more good days than bad.  I have seen some pragmatic, big picture thinking that I have never seen from him before and I have seen him shut down Facebook and his news app so he can control his exposure to negativity.  Overall, he seems to be able to self soothe better.

We have been pretty strapped for cash lately so we don't need this  - who does??  It has prompted me to suggest we have a conversation that I felt we were on the verge of having anyway, about living arrangements.  He said that he'd been thinking the same thing.  So it's likely that he'll probably move back in soon.

[Milly]

Hope, interesting the read the comparison in your H when he faced the 911 crisis and the Coronavirus one. Good for you for prompting the much needed conversation on living arrangements, especially now that money must be looked after and the airlines are really struggling. I like that so much. Maybe there is a point at which these MLCers do need the LBS to take hold of the reins a little.

I hope he does move in and save you all money. I also hope he moves in so you can carry on building together. Take care and keep safe xxx

[Puzzled]

3Boys, I'm so sorry you are going through this.  I can imagine that it is nerve-wracking, and I'm sorry to hear that it is so uncomfortable.  You and your boys are in my thoughts and prayers.
Seattle is also my home in the US but I'm living back in my home country, Germany.