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#40: May 25, 2023, 10:52:25 AM
F5 just adding my voice to say the same, very happy to hear from you, happy you are doing so well and have moved so far. Hope you keep achieving whatever is your hearts desire for you and your kids.
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#41: May 25, 2023, 11:01:32 AM
You sound great. Grounded and moving along with your life...and pretty successful too by the sounds of it.

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It has been super healing for me to address the elephant in the room so to speak. To face her and talk to her like I wasn’t afraid anymore.

This has been my goal and once attained it's very freeing.

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Don’t get me wrong I still miss her and love her very much but I have grown and have moved forward with my life in a way where I am not waiting for anyone.

I also still love my spouse. But the love is for the old him...this new person is so very different...and so, we can still love and yet release any hold that they have on us.

You are really doing well! Bravo!
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#42: May 25, 2023, 03:47:17 PM
WooHooo F5!! 8)

So happy to know you are well, and doing good.

Things change, and look at all your change..... RIGHT ON!!!

Made my day reading your update.

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#43: May 25, 2023, 11:50:02 PM
So, she thinks she is having a Midlife Crisis?
 

Glad to hear you are doing better!
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#44: May 26, 2023, 08:04:33 AM
UM, where do you store all these memes and gifs? - you seem to have one for every occasion....
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#45: May 29, 2023, 02:49:48 PM
Great update, F5
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#46: May 30, 2023, 12:24:32 AM
UM, where do you store all these memes and gifs? - you seem to have one for every occasion....

I don't store them, I just link them in from other places that have vast amounts of available material....
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#47: May 30, 2023, 03:20:15 AM
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Last month I had to deal face to face with my ex after years of not talking.

So glad to hear that you focused on you and your healing, your life.

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It has been super healing for me to address the elephant in the room so to speak. To face her and talk to her like I wasn’t afraid anymore.

You are doing so much better for the healing you've achieved, to the point that you've

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moved forward with my life in a way where I am not waiting for anyone.

You sound very strong and have had time to do a lot of healing while moving forward in your life.

I agree with others, you sound great!
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#48: November 05, 2023, 03:49:24 PM
Hi everyone !

I caught up on a few of your threads. I don't read and follow as much as I should anymore. Though all of you are in my thoughts and prayers always.


Business has been doing well. I have started to rebuild financially a little bit and don’t worry to much about keeping the lights on at the moment.  I feel for all of you that have to go through this nightmare.  It’s not easy but it is possible.


   I have also thought about the possibility of moving on with someone else. I haven’t been standing so to  speak but I have always known deep down I was not ready so I never dated.

   I was actually smitten with someone at work for the first time in a very very long time. I never made a move because of my position at work but it’s a feeling I have not had in so long….

  We forget or we as LBS don’t  realize how isolated we can become. Why would we be vulnerable again ???   


  I do find myself with a twinge of anger still. T moments of fatigue or solitude I still can feel it and think about it. It’s very few and far between but I still think about the life that was .

  It’s still not roses I still have work to do even at almost five years out.   I haven’t stopped putting one foot in front of the other. I keep moving forward no matter what.  I am light years ahead of where I once was . 

   Oh the holidays ;) lol miss and love all of you !  You guys are amazing !
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#49: November 10, 2023, 05:03:22 PM
I'm so glad that business is going good and that you are re-building. 

Those feelings sit dormant for quite a while don't they?  It is sometimes a bit of a shock when interest in someone arises after so long.

Yes, light years ahead of where you were.  Cycling can still happen, especially depending on the season that we are coming around to.
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