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#80: February 23, 2026, 11:11:32 PM
Congratulations TH on your son! Glad to hear he’s healthy despite being born so early. Must be a big scare for you too. Enjoy your growing family and keep us updated.
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H    45 at BD
Married 11 yrs at BD, no kids,
BD May 2019 (I moved out Nov 2019)
EA or PA with ex gf (not sure), H spent 3 nights with the hoe during our vacation in July 2019, it was a friendly encounter according to H
H wanted D April 2020 seeing suspected OW2 (divorced with two kids) and 2 years older than him, H didn’t file the D
Clinging boomerang
6/21 H moved in with me; kicked him out 01/22
H turned into a vanisher, wants a Divorce, OW 3 (16 years younger and extreme sporty)
14.11.22 Divorce final, I'm done
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#81: February 24, 2026, 02:08:17 AM
Well, THIS is a good reason to resurrect a thread. Congratulations on the birth of your Son! I can only imagine the stress and the worries of such an early birth but it looks like everything went well and you all are in good health and spirits!

It is more than good that BF was there and is sticking by you. Gives one a little faith in humanity again, right? And a track record of working through issues instead of going off the deep end and running off into the tunnel.

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Together 19 years - Married 17 at separation & 21 at D-Day
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BD#1 - August 2015
Atomic BD - 13 Dec 2015
House sold & separated - Mar 2016
Divorce final 30 August 2019
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#82: February 28, 2026, 09:48:11 AM
Thank you BB, UM and DF!

It was a scary time, so I’m so glad to leave it behind me. And indeed the confirmation that somebody can go through to a difficult period and cope with that in a healthy way without running is such a relief haha :-)

We’re a great team and just so happy and gratefull to be home with our little family.
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Together for 15 years, married for 4 years
H: 33, me: 33, D: 1,5
BD: april '22 (EA + 'I want to live alone, have no responsibilities')
Left home: june '22
Divorce final: october '22

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#83: February 28, 2026, 05:17:19 PM
Congratulations TH!  My friend had a baby born that early and by 2 there was no telling that he had even been a preemie.
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#84: February 28, 2026, 10:47:52 PM
That’s so good to hear FW!

I really hope that’s going to be the case for us too. For now there are no indications that something is abnormal; all the medical check-ups and scans are good so *fingers crossed*
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#85: March 06, 2026, 07:46:12 AM
Awwwww, congratulations TH on your son. What an amazing turn of events!! He may have had a rough start, but sounds like he is thriving and has 2 parents showing up in all the right ways. ❤️
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There is almost something harder about someone being alive and having to lose what you believed to be true of them than someone actually dying.

Married July 1991
Jan 2018 BD1 moved out I filed for Div/ H stopped it
Oct 2018 moved back
Oct 2020 BD2
Feb 2021 Div-29 1/2 years
July 2021 Married OW
Feb 2022  XH fired
June 2022 XH bring OW to meet family due to xMIL illness
May 2023 went NC after telling XH we could not be friends
Aug 2023 XH moves w/o OWife
May 2024 xMIL visits XH/OW in their new home
Aug 2024 cut relations w/XH fam.
Dec 2025 granddaughter born( XH not told)
                   XH did not send his kids and grandson bday or xmas gift this year.
May 2026 grandson due ( XH not told)
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#86: April 27, 2026, 10:00:08 PM
Thank you ML! Yes, the feeling of both parents being strong, present and putting the kids first is amazing!
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#87: Today at 07:49:20 AM
Hello,

So good to hear from you and congratulations! I am so glad that everything is going well with you and that you have a true partner.

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I found a good guy, that is there whenever I need him.

That is the best. The comfort of actual presence. I have an odd situation where I am up early and on the road to work Monday through Friday. By the time I return on home on the evenings, it is eat dinner, pack, and get to bed. However, every weekend is our time and we spend the entire time together. Just going to the store is an adventure and I enjoy being with her. I think that is why I am looking forward to retiring in a few years is so that we have the opportunity to be together every day.

I am so glad that you found a good guy as well. A person that is mature and understands that the world doesn't revolve around him and his needs. A guy that appreciates and respects you. Above all, he loves his family. Trust me, they grow up fast and in the blink of an eye- they are adults. Enjoy this time- I'm not saying things get bad, they change and you truly want to be present for all the changes as your children evolve into adults. Sometimes, I become so focused on the end that I forget that you need to appreciate the route that takes you to your destination.

Keep posting and let us know how the family is doing!

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