[Helpnewc]

Sadly I agree.

I gave up attempting to rationalise the irrational sometime ago.

[Baxter1]

Some journaling,

Well it’s been a year, one whole year of MLC. It’s been quite the ride, from the confusion and sadness at BD to now living together but separate in the same home.
We are in a phase where I am totally ignored. I don’t see monster all too often, every once in a while I am told if I don’t move out she will file, I stand my ground so this has yet to happen. She’s still high energy but has slowed down a bit, hone most nights and just is locked in her room. The alienator is still around from what I can see, I try to keep that out of my mind. Silver lining to this is that my relationship with has my kids has grown. Also I have grown, I’m stronger and I’ve traveled and learned about myself over this last year.

I could not have made it without the support of this group. Thank you all for your responses and support. There were times where I thought my whole life was falling apart and the responses to my posts got me through those dark times. I was hoping that balloons would fall from the ceiling and I’d get a sash for the one year anniversary, maybe next year…

[Biscuit]

Good post Baxter.

I'm sure Ursa has a balloons and sash gif waiting for you somewhere

[UrsaMajor]

I was hoping that balloons would fall from the ceiling and I’d get a sash for the one year anniversary, maybe next year…

This will have to do ....

[Biscuit]

Pretty good UM

[Baxter1]

Love it!

[xyzcf]

Thanks for the morning laugh UM

[Happylight]

Well it’s been a year, one whole year of MLC.
Silver lining to this is that my relationship with has my kids has grown. Also I have grown, I’m stronger and I’ve traveled and learned about myself over this last year.

I just recently found out about this forum, but I am also just passed the one year mark of my invitation to this crisis.  I am proud of my growth as well.  It is fantastic that you have also grown your relationship with your kids.  So much research shows that fathers have a HUGE impact on their kids, and as a society, we don't value that as I think we should.  Although I have withheld a lot of information from them, and mitigated damage to the best of my ability, it has been heart breaking to watch the damage my H has done to his relationship with our kids. 

[Baxter1]

I don’t think she has said a thing to the kids about OM, I know I haven’t. I just tell them we are going through something. Them seeing her disappear for days and seeing me be the stable force has really helped our relationship. It’s so sad, she was the best mom, now it’s like she’s a different person all together.

[Baxter1]

Some Journaling

She filed the other day. It’s been a little over a year of her threatening to file if I don’t move out so she finally did it the other day. This doesn’t affect my stand, it’s my understanding that these things take time but I’m still holding on. Maybe it was pressure from the Alienator or maybe she’s getting close to SPLAT and this is just her way of escaping and avoiding.I guess it really does get worse before it gets better. I’m still in the home and still see the kids(and Baxter)  every day. She still locks herself in her room when she gets home. Still high energy but has slowed down a lot of the last couple of months. Time will tell what happens..