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#50: September 17, 2026, 11:17:59 AM
This is pretty confusing that’s for sure.  I’m applying my skill sets that I learned here.  Lol. One step at a time.  Staying realistic. 
So far I know I’m stage 4 colon cancer.  There’s a more specific name for the area.  But I can’t remember the name. 
Lots of decisions to be made.  They want to put in a bag (I can’t remember the name of that either.  I’ve gone dumb all of a sudden) and I e agreed to do that.  There’s not a full blockage from the mass yet but it could happen. This will keep that from happening and prevent an emergency situation.  Which we don’t need more of that.  And then I’ll be able to eat whatever I want.  That’s a plus cause I’m missing food.  lol.
They will put in the ports for chemo and radiation and I will start that.  The hope is it will shrink my tumors and I will get a couple more years.  This is not going to be a remission type situation most likely.  I’m just trying to buy time. A year or two would be very welcome. 
So that’s where I’m at right now.  My kids have been fantastic.  Taking turns staying with me and visiting. 
I’m being sent home today and Monday is the first surgery.  I’m keeping a good attitude.  I haven’t fallen apart.  And I hope I don’t.  I want to stay in a good place for my family and friends so they know that I’m ok and their support is a huge positive.
I thought I’d be more falling apart.  But I’m not.  At least not yet.  I mean honestly a couple more years, if that is in the cards, will be just fine.  I’ll cram so much time for fun with my family during that time. 
I know some hard days will show up.  I get that.  It’s funny though.  I’m so concerned about my family that I am able to keep it together for them.  I love them so much.  I’d do anything for them. 
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#51: September 17, 2026, 06:12:36 PM
toomanytears, thank you for sharing your diagnosis with us. Even though we are "strangers" , we know a great deal about one another and your friends here care deeply....what words make any sense? Cancer can and will hit many of us or someone we love.

Glad to hear that your kids are supportive and I hope you live somewhere that has the best medical care that is possible for you to get.

I will be praying for you. Your attitude is very positive and that really is an important part of your treatment.

Please keep us up to date, please reach out if there is any way I can help.
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#52: September 17, 2026, 07:04:11 PM
I’m so sorry to hear about your cancer diagnosis toomanytears. I appreciate your courage and your positivity despite this diagnosis. I will include you in my prayers. Hugs to you even if we don’t know each other personally.
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#53: September 19, 2026, 12:25:43 PM
So sorry to hear this, toomanytears.
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#54: September 20, 2026, 02:14:24 AM
Oh, TMT, I am so sorry this has happened to you. I think this is where those "transferable skills" come in. One day at a time, one thing at a time.

Sending you positive energy and strength.
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#55: September 20, 2026, 05:18:13 PM
TMT, I am so sorry!  My thoughts and prayers are with you.  I wish nothing but the best for you and I'm glad your family is with you.  Just a reminder to all of us that time is not promised, but I am praying like crazy you get lots more time.  And that you are pain free and can do things with your family and make the most of whatever you have. 

Yes, definitely some transferrable skills, and it really does put life into perspective.  ***Hugs from afar***

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