[LisaLives]

I had not heard of Schmuley Boteach before, but I love Huffington Post Divorce.  This is a great little blog about healing the American male.  Worth a read, and if it saves even one man from an MLC, it was worth a million bucks! 


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rabbi-shmuley-boteach/healing-the-broken-americ_b_871323.html

[justasking]

Do you think it might help the Brits as well? lol   

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[LisaLives]

I didn't want to stand in judgment of the Brits--are your men as screwed up as ours?  And again, it wasn't my judgment, but the Rabbi's...  Just sayin...

[LearningIamOk]

I love Rabbi Schmuley.  He used to have a tv show on where he would help families in trouble.  He is very good at what he does.  I loved the post. Thanks

[justasking]

yep our guys are as screwed up as yours lol   

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[Dontgiveup]

That is a good article.  In my opinion, though, I believe making foolish decisions based on power is different than MLC behavior.  Certainly men such as Tiger and Arnold made bad decisions....but I don't really believe either one of them were because of MLC.....I believe their decisions were simply based on power.

[offmyrocker]

http://www.angriesout.com/couples8.htm

I thought this was a really good article on passive aggressive behavior in relationships and the whole dynamic... This really explains a lot of my relationship.

OMR

[LeaveThePastBehind]

I read that article shortly after bomb drop. It really helped me realize that, yeah, he was always nice ( most of the time ) and took care of me in many ways, including financially, but there was definitely another side to the facade. This article helped me detach.

[good4me]

Off,
This article sounds like someone was watching life in my house. H always seems so quiet and giving. Yet when asked a question it was always "we'll see" but that always turned out to be a "no" Why not just say no ? Because it was easier to avoid the confrontation with me. He always liked to do whatever he wanted and I wasn't to question any of this.

[WarriorPriestess]

This article was SPOT ON for me and H.  Although I do find it a bit depressing for the long term.  Question: Are extreme distancers naturally passive aggressive?  Are distancers by definition passive aggressive due to their lack of engagement with the pursuer?  I've been doing some studying on these dynamics and wondering if they are workable in the long run or if I am just beating my head against a brick wall trying.  It's also hard to tell how much of this behavior is caused by MLC and how much is caused by actual personality.