[SSG]

Mine used OM#1 phone number as the password to her iphone/ipad to taunt me; she admitted that. Also admitted she knew I would look and she didn't bother deleting the the conversation between her and OM#2. So yes, she did want me to see and she admitted she was hoping I would get pissed enough to boot her out so she wouldn't have to be the bad guy.

As far as leaving her stuff out; she knows I will look if she leaves it down. In fact, after EA#2 was discovered, I'll take and look at her stuff any time I want now. I took her right to privacy away; told her if she didn't like it then go file for D and get out of my house! I pay for that phone and it is in my name anyway so she can stuff it.

I know this doesn't follow the traditional teachings here but anyone who has read any of my postings on infidelity knows this is a boundary and sore spot with me; I wont tolerate the disrespect and she knows that! She has a choice to leave but she stays and endures my boundary / rules so it is what it is!


OBO

I find it amazing when reading topics on this forum, how the WH/WH feel they are entitled to do and act as they want, while living with their S.

My H was here 2 months after BD...I set boundries within the first few days and he held to them 99% of the time.  If he broke one in my presence, I got up and left the room without comment.

I am sorry we are all here....we should be enjoying the lives we had planned on having, without the MLC crap thrown on our heads.

SG

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The universe works in strange ways

Today, H sends me an email of a picture that he saw on this website that he frequents. I know that he spends time on there and that he posts pictures of where he goes and what he is doing. I haven't looked at it before today. H sent me the link to the website so I decided to look around. Here is a post that I found from him about OW:

The chick is a bit crazy, now that is not necessarily a bad thing but
 in this case it is a little much. Keeping watch while one sleeps,
 insanely jealous, super emotional menses, etc…. Not deal breakers in
 and of themselves but combined make for a situation not worth
 investing in.

I couldn't believe that I came across this!

Wow!

[Blindsided13]

My H is a crafty one, OW is too. She is the female version of him. Actually when he told me about her (just met her he said, lie, they were already entangled shown by the constant texting back and forth and calls 2 mos prior him telling me). I met this SGT she is a lesbian, just like me, likes camping, hiking, etc. I was thinking of inviting her and her partner to Thanksgiving, 3 days before Thanksgiving he was living at her place. UMMM, wonder where this partner is? LIES, LIES, LIES. Evidently she told him he makes an ugly woman, but a pretty man, and if she was into guys she would definitely "do" him. So he said she calls him "prettyface". I am going with this whole this is a cleverly crafted lie, that he had intention of continuing after he came home. For whatever reason he decided to abandon his family and move in with her.

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The universe works in strange ways

Today, H sends me an email of a picture that he saw on this website that he frequents. I know that he spends time on there and that he posts pictures of where he goes and what he is doing. I haven't looked at it before today. H sent me the link to the website so I decided to look around. Here is a post that I found from him about OW:

The chick is a bit crazy, now that is not necessarily a bad thing but
 in this case it is a little much. Keeping watch while one sleeps,
 insanely jealous, super emotional menses, etc…. Not deal breakers in
 and of themselves but combined make for a situation not worth
 investing in.

I couldn't believe that I came across this!

Wow!

Here is another post from H:

 Creepiest thing heard this weekend: “You looked so peaceful when I was watching you sleep.”

OW is a nut job!  How could he leave me for this woman?!

It is so sad that he only has internet friends to share his 'adventures with".

[Blindsided13]

He didn't leave you for her, he is messed up in the head. For some reason I keep thinking about Steven King's book "Misery"......

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He didn't leave you for her, he is messed up in the head. For some reason I keep thinking about Steven King's book "Misery"......

Thanks Blindsided13

I just can't get over how this kind of fell in my lap. The first post was very recent. I guess it will just have to play itself out but I can't believe that he would get involved with someone like this.

[SSG]

Here is another post from H:

 Creepiest thing heard this weekend: “You looked so peaceful when I was watching you sleep.”

OW is a nut job!  How could he leave me for this woman?!

It is so sad that he only has internet friends to share his 'adventures with".

Hi Searching...my husband did not go near a computer until OW.  He is also living his life on FB...they sign on simultaneously ...

The comment above about watching while sleeping...here is one from my files, OW to H

"I was yesterday so sleepy, as I m , when you gentle love me:-)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))aslept several times on mobile:-))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))you are better and better-you can do it by sms:-)))"

 

SSG

[Anjae]

With the writing RCR has done, I think there is recognition about the OP being the most painful.....RCR writes that directly in regard to infidelity.
Infidelity
Though this is merely a symptom of the Dis-Ease, it is often the most painful and public.

RCR did wrote about the other person being the most painful thing in a MLC but my view is that the big damage an alienator has is downplayed and put along the same things like drinking, gambling and so on = and addiction. And it some cases the other person is an addiction, but it is very different from a substance or a thing. It is a person, that is a totally different level.

The part that seems to get overlooked with the alienator is they are part of the regression that is MLC.  That's why some alienators might be a boyfriend/girlfriend from a long time ago......or someone significantly younger than the MLCer.

From RCR
MLC is a crisis. It is specific to the individual in MLC; it is not about the spouse and it is not about the alienator. The alienator is just a convenient and willing player on stage.

Yes the other person is part of the regression and a willing player. Often an eager one. But is is about the spouse. Not the individual person that is the spouse, but the position of being the spouse. They do not turn agains the butcher, the school teatcher, the banl clerk, they turn agains the spouse.

So, it is not personal because it is not about person X or Z is the spouse, but it is specific, it targets the spouse.

The MLCer has an addiction to the adoration, approval, & sexual attention of the OP.  Despite the stereotype of the young, beautiful OW of the MLC, it certainly is not the case in my situation & not of too many I read here.  And while sex can be an important factor, I think even more powerful is the adoration & approval, the validation of the MLC mindset.

Agree, it is much more about the adoration, approval and validation of whatever the MLCer wants, crazier it may be, than about sex.

The chick is a bit crazy, now that is not necessarily a bad thing but
 in this case it is a little much. Keeping watch while one sleeps,
 insanely jealous, super emotional menses, etc…. Not deal breakers in
 and of themselves but combined make for a situation not worth
 investing in.

You longer have any doubt that your husband is/was out of his mind, do you? 

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The chick is a bit crazy, now that is not necessarily a bad thing but
 in this case it is a little much. Keeping watch while one sleeps,
 insanely jealous, super emotional menses, etc…. Not deal breakers in
 and of themselves but combined make for a situation not worth
 investing in.

You longer have any doubt that your husband is/was out of his mind, do you? 

He is batsh*t crazy! I guess it is going to continue getting worse