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#150: September 13, 2011, 12:40:51 AM
Very true  S4M and Stayed ... I agree with that, and I am coming now to the point of being able to say that I am happy within myself, I am a strong person, and I know that my future will be good no matter what my H chooses to do. My happiness comes from within myself, living to my values and giving my love and time to others, and myself too. In the past I maybe forgot myself and later resented this not being recognised, mainly by my H. Today will be a great day, and tomorrow is looking good, the future will take care of itself, and I do not worry about that now. I think my journey has been successful, and its not over yet, I will do more than survive, I will flourish.

Got my rose coloured specs Freddygone!!
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Re: Standing vs Moving On
#151: September 13, 2011, 01:45:56 AM
What a brilliant statement Stayed.
There are so many wonderful points shared on this Forum, it is better than any therapy.
There is so much we learn, but this point about this experience allowing us to break free from OUR prison is so true.
If we look around at so many married couples that are in a mundane routine, following the same track but not knowing why....they often hold contempt for teir partners and feel trapped.
We have been given a gift, yes a gift, of being able to see reality and any new relationship will be blessed by what we have learnt.
I know this was a painful experience, but I am so much better for having had the experience. I am a better person and I am no longer trapped, sad or attached. I am FREE.
My Rose coloured spectacles are firmly in place. Even my poor wife looks lovely but very, very stressed and troubled. They don't understand, but if we have the opportunity, we can explain what we learnt. But now is not the time.
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Re: Standing vs Moving On
#152: September 13, 2011, 01:51:58 AM
Rose coloured specs in place and never being taken off again.

You know folks, however this turns out, we are are going to have a BRAND NEW RELATIONSHIP!  The old one/ones are dead! 

I have no regrets either Freddygone... none whatsover!

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Re: Standing vs Moving On
#153: September 13, 2011, 02:34:56 AM
This goes back a few posts, but it is something I often think about.

What stayed said about it being no easier to have a new r with our spouses  than to have one with someone else, and on balance, I'd choose to do the work with my spouse, given the opportunity. 

That can be the other way around as well:  no easier to have a new r with someone else than to have a new r with our spouses......   they'd be different, to be sure, but on balance my feelings are the same.  It's a lot of work either way. 
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