[Returned]

Indeed, another month has passed, and I have had a resumption of civil, if brief, conversation.

He can only talk to me briefly before he becomes annoyed, but at least he no longer seems like an extraterrestrial...

Only he knows what he is thinking....

[CrazyStupidLove]

My boomerang bought McDonald's breakfast at 7 am yesterday morning and brought it to the house for the kids. I noticed he put a bag for me on top of my purse and a smoothie next to it.  He didn't say anything to me and I almost just left it there but ended up drinking the smoothie. I did not thank him..usually I'm all over the thank you's for what he does for me..but I've quit doing it.  The less I speak to him the more he tries to be sweet and get my attention...as Taylor Swift would say, "This is exhausting!"

[Songanddance]

Can I assume that I have a clinging boomerang for my H. He still wants to live at home (he has to as his business is run from home) and tries to be chatty and upbeat. Talks to me an awful lot about the business etc....but keeps disappearing off - spent last few days on holiday with OW. Returned adamant he wanted to stay at home more because of our S, the garden, the dogs (yeah right) Today did lots of jobs around the house and still went off to see OW. Sent me a text that he would probably stay away overnight - my reply was terse and told him that I found his behaviour hurtful and insulting and I deserved better. He replied - didn't want to be hurtful so would be back tonight! Find it quite amusing that he wanted to be insulting though!!Apart from cake eater what is he - a CB?

[calamity]

I would venture to say yes he's a clinging boomerang!

[crazyjourney]

I think mine is a boomerang but not the clinging variety, although maybe would have been if given the chance.

He checks in most weeks via text or email, would phone if I would talk to him.

Older children so they do their own thing regards contact with him.

He has been more control freak than angry monster, but seems to be very respectful of any boundaries set, pretty well behaved child really which is what he was when younger by all accounts, but I see a very manipulative side, he does things in the nicest possible way to get what he wants.

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[mof2]

Is it strange that I'm a little jealous of those of you who do have boomerangs???  My H isn't a boomerang...he has COMPLETELY cut me/us out of his life.  Doesn't email, doesn't call.  He just wants to be left to himself.  He will not talk to anyone about what he has done.  It makes me feel like I was worth nothing to him.  I loved and doted on that man for years and now I feel like we are strangers and he doesn't even think twice about me/us anymore. 

[crazyjourney]

Mof2

Not strange at all to be jealous very natural I would say and these mlcers are all different.

I will say this though in the long run I think it will be easier on you because having them check in all the time keeps the emotions hanging on, they like to put out little bits of hope to keep you hanging on and it becomes like emotional cruellty.

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[mof2]

So OP, does that mean he will never regret his decision considering he is finding it so easy to stay away?

[crazyjourney]

Not OP

But I think he has as much chance of regretting his decision as the rest of them, just needs to be back in reality first, same as the rest of them.

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[mof2]

I'm sorry stayed.  Thank you for your response