[Synicca]

well, again....when a 43 year old man has 12,000 texts msges on his cell bill...THAT my friends says everything!

[kikki]

'12,000 txts on ph bill'

yip - says it all

'change is in the wind'

I like it - lets stand back and watch 

[Mamma Bear]

  Syn and KiKi     12,000 texts WTF?   What's to say? How are you? I am fine.  WOW!
  Yeah and these OWs are so special they don't even realize they're in an R with someone who is incapable of being in an R with ANYONE right now, not even his kids,siblings, mother or wife.   Mass confusion,chaos and drama..how can that be good for them?  Isn't their bar of what's acceptable a little LOW?
 What kind of character judges are they? Why will they stoop so low to let a crazy married man move right in?  They must just hold it in until they explode......pass the popcorn....

[Synicca]

oh yah Mamma,

12,000 texts in one month....but that was back when he was WAY deep in addiction with OW and he got busted
by his employer when they found out. ( business phone) 

They told him then if they found out he was texting during work hours they would take his phone away.
but you know he couldnt have that happen...LOL!!

but I guess since he has been working in NY and staying with OW, there may not be a need for such texting.
but I do remember that when she was here, he told me they would text eachother in the same house!!! 

[OldPilot]

but I do remember that when she was here, he told me they would text eachother in the same house!!! 
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When my kids were teenagers they used to do that sitting next to each other.

Thats what you got a big teenager.

[Anjae]

12,000 messages in 1 month?  I think they beat the most texting addict teenager!

but I guess since he has been working in NY and staying with OW, there may not be a need for such texting.
but I do remember that when she was here, he told me they would text eachother in the same house!!! 

  that's all I can say!

[Mamma Bear]

   Now I'm kinda glad they found each other. Their EA is' pass the ketchup' ?  That's cool.    The sex? Probably good once or twice. Now he's confused.  And on opiates. That never helps MrPopkins.
    This is getting good.  Add the' he's now unemployed' and rock bottom is getting closer and closer.  Here comes LG to tell me 23.6 more months   It's cool. I'm chillin'

[Standing4Myself]

As a male that went through this, I can say my heart was broken when I learned of the PA but was completely shattered when I learned there was an EA, felt way more betrayed. Being emotionally intimate with someone else after all the years her and I were together was the worst part about it. There was no trust, she could have been telling this person things that only my W and I discussed. I felt totally alone at that point – who could I count on? Who could I trust? Who could I share things with?

I think the body will go where the mind/heart goes – men in MLC probably start PA then go EA and women in MLC – I think – go the other way around.

But, they have to live with that. We don’t. 

[Synicca]

I can tell you Standing.....while I was going through PPD, It was the EA that got me first...I told OM things that I never should have
and I even told him many lies, to justify my reasons for doing what I did.

I was/am not proud of what I did. and it has taken my H's MLC  (13 yrs later) to really see the amount of pain I truly caused him back then.
I can only hope my H knows how much I understand.

[Standing4Myself]

from what I know, my ex told many lies. And I figured - what else would she have said? the truth? The worst was when i realized she had told the OM I beat her and my children. But then that sometimes just makes you know how crazy they are and how messed up MLC's are and proved to me that it wasn't me/us - it was her. And I was (almost) sane because who would claim that yet leave the kids w/ their father? 

the EA always scared me more and figured she was really gone then.