[Standing in Patience]

Is it because they are inattentive? Or because they are so wrapped up in the OW or OM? Is it because their decision making becomes warped?  Is it because they can't get up in the morning to get to their jobs? Do they quit or get fired?

[StillStanding]

All of the above.

Heck, I almost lost my job after the bomb drop, from the stress and the lack of sleep.

Some of it probably also has to do with "discovering themselves"; aside from their marriage, their job is probably the other major thing they think is contributing to their unhappiness. So they may think they want to change careers, or try something more creative or "fulfilling". Maybe they want to live closer to an OP, or farther away from the people they think are making them unhappy.

[Anjae]

Mauby all that you've sair Standing. But some, like my husband, manage to ditch the job he had when he was still at home, and end up with 3 jobs! The man does not sleep!

[readytofixmyselffirst]

Mine was lucky to keep her temporary job. She was constantly late. She still forgets everything. It is something that happens when they become teenagers all over again. I mean she would leave something on the stove and almost burn the pot.

So, I think many things go into losing the job. However, some even become more successful and bury themselves in their work. They even get promoted. Go figure.

[Dontgiveup]

Their job is one of what Jim Conway calls the "Four Enemies" of the MLCer (spouse, job, body, and God).  Many MLCers want to quit their job.  Mine actually did quit, but went back to it.

[Trustandlove]

I agree with DGU; I've seen him fight against all 4 of those "enemies".  BD was the day before he started a new job (was desperate to get away from old one, thought it was what was bad), has since lost that one, and left 2 others because they weren't "it" either.  Is now on 4th new venture. 

[honour]

So, I think many things go into losing the job. However, some even become more successful and bury themselves in their work. They even get promoted. Go figure.

Mine kept her job by leaving family, country and everything to live in other country where her company had relocated to and to live with OM who works for company. The prospect of job loss was a major trigger that "sent her over the edge". She got a big salary increase to boot! But she has lost her children. What profit a man if he gain the whole world but lose his own soul?

honour

[justasking]

The depression that is part of the MLCers journey means that they often are not able to function effectively. Time means nothing. Planning is difficult. Making decisions effectively is lacking. Despite this they are often able to function in an environment that they know, to an acceptable level. But new environments or jobs that require constant change makes the MLC less capable.

Many MLCers who start new jobs during this period struggle to learn new skills etc.

As the depression increases during their journey their ability to be an efficient member of a team is tested with other team members supporting them and their role. This can and does cause problems for them as it tests the patience of colleagues.

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[Dandy Lion]

I think it does affect their work.  If they were workaholics to start with as my H is, he still works very hard but people are getting on his nerves and he is not making appointments on time and has started going to do work at odd hours in order to avoid the people that know him well.  He told me he would prefer to work alone because everyone irritates him.

I have a feeling they lose their jobs due to not being able to perform to the level that they use to because there mind is full of fog.

[Mamma Bear]

   My H was always a few minutes late for limo driving. I used to try a cajole him to move faster and get there on time. he acted like I was a nag.
  Now.. 7 mos since BD ..He got fired. Guess who he blames..?
 No not me.    His boss!    " My boss is an a**Hole"
  LOL  I guess he'll have to live off the 3k he took out of his 401K.
  Until he finds a new job.      (on vicodin!  everyone  drug tests)