[Jaybeecee]

Thanks so much.  What a great read.  H checks almost every box. 

[stillbaffled]

Yes, thank you.  My STBXH also exhibits most of these. 

It helps me feel like I'm not going crazy. 

[Tsunami]

I initially found this in 2011.  For the first few weeks after finding it, I read it every night before I went to bed.  I can't tell you how much it helped me.

When I see new posters, I feel compelled to bump it up.  I must say, I do smile when posters post to thank me and tell me how much it helped them.

Thank you for appreciating it, and I pray it helps you too!

[UKStander]

I initially found this in 2011.  For the first few weeks after finding it, I read it every night before I went to bed.  I can't tell you how much it helped me.

Ditto!  A copy is still my little nightstand drawer...   Sad but true. 5 years on and very occasionally it still helps to remind myself of the realities of MLC/depression and that that is what I've been dealing with.  The article is one of the very best.

[Trustandlove]

I read this often, too -- I think there is only one thing that H didn't tick, and actually, it's one I can't know about right now so he may well tick every one....

It reminds me that it's not me who's nuts

[UKStander]

This is another good aide-memoire about craziness. Jed Diamond (psychologist, author of Irritable Male Syndrome and Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places and more books besides) told me this is how my H could suddenly view me as the enemy:



In time - LOTS of time - the image would shift back to the Lovely Lady.

I'm pretty sure H is still seeing the Hag at the moment.   What will be fun is when Bags (the OW) turns Hag.

[Nas]

I'm a little worried for myself that when I look at that image all I see is an old lady.   

[KeepItTogether]

Thank you for posting this! I think I will prob read this every night! My H is apparently "textbook".

[Roma]

Thanks for posting. This was one of the first articles I read when trying to figure out was was wrong with my H, and why he so wrongly saw me the way he did.

It's startling to see what MLC does to them, and it makes them turn on us the LBS ther one who cares and loves them the most.

I provided this to him and his brothers/friends and they just couldn't 'believe' my H could ever turn like this, and 'believed his angry very untrue spew about me instead.

Because of these things, I gave up my efforts to help my H, found this site to start helping myself.

Thanks again for posting, I really do 'hope' newer newbies read this to see exactly what is in their MLCers mind and do what I did, start to heal themselves.

@UK I FINALLY see the lovely lady! haha Thanks for posting.

[riverbirch]

Just read this. I may have in the past but don't remember. It fills in a lot of blanks in my situation. He's home now but still going through this. He's not in replay anymore. Let's hope he doesn't go back and just forward. Although I believe it's going to be a very long process for him. Ugh!