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#20: September 23, 2012, 08:42:46 AM
He also asked my daughter's ages and when I said 17 and 14, he said "oh, he's a dead man for leaving their mom and hurting the most important person in their lives"

Hardly anything I've read is more true than this statement. Mygirls are 16 and 19 ( were 14 and 17 when it all went down)
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#21: September 23, 2012, 08:57:43 AM
Reading hobo's doctor's response is why I don't like the phrase MLC - people already think it's something else (50 year old man with a blonde and a sportscar!!).  I mean, even though a crisis at mid life is technicallly what it is, you've already picked an uphill battle publicly once you say it.  This thing really needs its own distinction, IMO.  But then it will be harder for people like us to find info!  Catch 22.

I also think hobo's doctor wouldn't have been clued in to changes in neurotransmitters or emotional issues, so that's where general physicians alone would be lost in making a diagnosis.  Psychiatry comes the closest - but how many of them seek that?  So frustrating.

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#22: September 23, 2012, 09:13:45 AM
Interesting thread.

I ended seeing the same doctor as my h a few months after BD.  I was quite upset when I saw her and described my concerns about his behaviour.  She just said "why would you want someone like that back you need to get on with your own life."
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#23: September 23, 2012, 09:22:09 AM
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Interesting thread.

I ended seeing the same doctor as my h a few months after BD.  I was quite upset when I saw her and described my concerns about his behaviour.  She just said "why would you want someone like that back you need to get on with your own life."

Yeah, because the mental wellbeing of your long-term marital partner isn't "your own life".  I feel sorry for the people married to people with this attitude.  Clearly, vows are good up until there's an opportunity for a "you go girl" talk show appearance.
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Re: Physicians and MLC
#24: September 23, 2012, 09:47:49 AM
Anyone ever have to go in to see their OBGYN and tell them "I need all the tests: AIDS, STDS, and PAP"? What would you tell them the reason for THAT would be?
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#25: September 23, 2012, 10:22:15 AM
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Anyone ever have to go in to see their OBGYN and tell them "I need all the tests: AIDS, STDS, and PAP"? What would you tell them the reason for THAT would be?
Yes.
I have.
The doctors don't really care about the why.
They are trained not to be judgmental about things like this.
Your health and wellbeing is in the forefront, not any moral qualms or questions they might have.
They're there to help you maintain your health.  Health testing and any therapies that help a physical condition/abnormality would be their focus.
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Re: Physicians and MLC
#26: September 23, 2012, 10:58:00 AM
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Anyone ever have to go in to see their OBGYN and tell them "I need all the tests: AIDS, STDS, and PAP"? What would you tell them the reason for THAT would be?
Yes.
I have.
The doctors don't really care about the why.
They are trained not to be judgmental about things like this.
Your health and wellbeing is in the forefront, not any moral qualms or questions they might have.
They're there to help you maintain your health.  Health testing and any therapies that help a physical condition/abnormality would be their focus.

I haven't been in a few years, but mine would always ask if I wanted those tests along with my PAP.  A few times I said, "Oh, I'm married, no worries," and they encouraged me to test anyway.  Now I know why!  ::)
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#27: September 23, 2012, 11:00:49 AM
Quote from: Ready2Transform on September 23, 2012, 10:58:00 AM
Quote from: JD on September 23, 2012, 10:22:15 AM
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Anyone ever have to go in to see their OBGYN and tell them "I need all the tests: AIDS, STDS, and PAP"? What would you tell them the reason for THAT would be?
Yes.
I have.
The doctors don't really care about the why.
They are trained not to be judgmental about things like this.
Your health and wellbeing is in the forefront, not any moral qualms or questions they might have.
They're there to help you maintain your health.  Health testing and any therapies that help a physical condition/abnormality would be their focus.

I haven't been in a few years, but mine would always ask if I wanted those tests along with my PAP.  A few times I said, "Oh, I'm married, no worries," and they encouraged me to test anyway.  Now I know why!  ::)

OH Gosh that's a vote of confidence for our society! I guess just a dose of reality. Thanks, ladies!
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#28: September 23, 2012, 11:08:40 AM
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OH Gosh that's a vote of confidence for our society! I guess just a dose of reality. Thanks, ladies!

It's sad, isn't it?  I used to think, "I'm so glad I'll never have to worry about that!".   :o ;D  I'm sure those doctors and nurses have seen it all.
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Re: Physicians and MLC
#29: September 23, 2012, 11:12:47 AM
It's a trust but verify world.
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The person least invested in a relationship has all the power.  
To someone in arrested development accountability appears as authority.  To someone emotionally healthy, accountability appears as security.  Dr. Paul Hegstrom.
Bomb Drops: July 2009,  Departure Sept 2009, Jan 2010 says he's not returning...
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