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Interacting with Your MLCer Re: Favorite Responses
#10: July 11, 2010, 06:51:09 PM
This is cracking me up reading your remarks. I will have to find some good ones to add. We are in NC, 5 months, which makes this all easier to deal with but I would like to be able to express myself with some humorous remarks if the need arises. I'm ready to start laughing about all of this.
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The Script our MLCer reads from
#11: November 11, 2010, 05:02:43 PM
I was just reading up on someone else's situation and except for a few personal details I could have written the conversations between my H and our story would have been the same.  Exactly word for word he has said the same things to me. 

Aside for the obvious, I love you but I'm not in love with you...

What are some "scripted statements" you have heard as a LBS? 

Here are a few of mine:

I hate that I'm doing this to you.

This is just something I need to do.

I love you, you've been amazing but this is something I have to do and it kills me to see you hurt like this.

She's just my friend.

Please don't beat yourself up over this .  You have been beyond great in putting up with me through this.

I'm not sure if I want to work on this.

I might leave. 

You pushed me away.

You were so cold to me.

I'm here, aren't I?  That's how I'm working on it.




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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#12: November 11, 2010, 06:15:45 PM
I'm not gonna file and I'm not gonna not file  :o
I'm unhappy and I have to figure out why
I've been unhappy in this R for YEEEEEEEEEARS
If I loved you how could this have happened
this could drag out for YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEARS

Oh and I've found my MLCER loves certain words and phrases:

Furthermore
moving forward
At this point
THIRD PARTY
YO  8) What's up!
That's insane  :o or your insane  :o or they're insane  :o basically anyone who is not my MLCer is Insane...

I could go on...........really
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#13: November 11, 2010, 06:26:37 PM
Whatever
yep
cool

Aarrrgh

Plus others
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#14: November 11, 2010, 06:55:37 PM
I feel no shame, guilt or remorse for what I've done

I haven't been happy in a long time. I need to be happy. Jesus wants me to be happy?????

I need space

I need patience

I don't want to be married to you anymore


Stoney silence
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#15: November 11, 2010, 07:03:53 PM
You are so controlling.

It is my time to be selfish. 

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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#16: November 11, 2010, 07:08:22 PM
It's your fault
I only did .... for the kids sake.
You and OW will be great friends.  :o
Ow is just like you really.  >:(
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#17: November 11, 2010, 08:22:25 PM
ok...

ILYBINILWY

I dont want to be married anymore

I need to find myself

I have nothing more to give, I am broken

I need time/space

I just cant take that chance( on saving our marriage)

all so similar...

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2 years since he left... divorce was filed a year ago, nothing going on right now. Seems like he and OW are done...will take some more time! Seems comfortable being around me and the girls. Relaxed without her, but does not want me...or anyone else...all that matters are his daughters...

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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#18: November 11, 2010, 09:06:38 PM
 I love you but not the way I think I should
 
 I'm just not happy.

 I need to know if I'm going to miss you

 I don't know if I want to be married to you for another 20 or 30 yrs.

 I need time and space

 I didn't leave you for her, I left for my own survival

 I looked after everyone for years, now I need something for me

 I'm not going to feel ashamed or guilty about this

 I'm moving on the best way I know how

 I love you and probably always will, but I'm not in love with you
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#19: November 11, 2010, 11:40:03 PM
And the famous:

"I don't want to". 

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