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Interacting with Your MLCer Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#120: February 11, 2011, 10:43:04 AM
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"If we were ever to get back together, I think it could only happen if we divorced first". Excuuuse me?
TOOO funny!!! ;D ;D I got something like this only he said something about the things we say to each other now like I'm sorry etc...wouldn't get to be said if we stayed married  :o :o

Yes I got the one about the "Loveless marriage"
I told him if he was refering to sex...I'd discuss that later.

Yeah and no kidding in this society it is almost geared to creating life conditions that lead to this kind of behavior!!
I couldn't agree MORE!!!

Plus ExH was always of the mind "If one is good 10 is better"

Hence 10 guitars that just one of those cost more than the car I drove for 5 years at one point...and he's not even in a band!! He's trying to be.

Like the saying goes:

"A man with one watch always knows what time it is; a man with two can't ever really be sure"
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#121: February 11, 2011, 10:44:13 AM
Stand

I have a similar email.  Except I'm amazing and perfect.

That's why OW is so attractive, they are needy and not amazing or magnificent.    ;)
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#122: February 11, 2011, 10:47:21 AM
My D14 made the obsevation ( before ow was out of the picture) that she thinks ExH thinks he doesn't desevre any better of a person that ow at  this point..maybe she's right?
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#123: February 11, 2011, 11:45:44 AM
I don't have any passion for our marriage.

I am not sexually attracted to you.

It's about me.  It's not about you.

You're boring.  You're rigid.  You have a bad back (huh?).

Your opinion doesn't count because you're my wife and you're biased.

I need friends.

I need fun.

I'm selfish.

I'm better than everyone else.

I'm bored.

I can kick anyone whose younger than me's a**.

I need space.

You're suffocating me.

You didn't deserve this.

I've caused you too much pain, you'd be better off without me.
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#124: February 11, 2011, 12:05:00 PM
I got a loooonggg drawn out 11 texts right after BD

I do not deserve you, You are a wonderful wife, companion, friend and Lover I could have ever asked for.
You did nothing to distroy our marriage, I take 100% responsibility for what I have "chosen" to do.
You do not need to worry or blame yourself for any of this, and I will NEVER show anger or blame towards
you for what I am doing you and to us.

I can only hope that I can learn to forgive myself and start by saying I am truly Sorry.
I sit here and cry at the very thought, that while you are reading these texts, Tears are
streaming down your face and it brings me great sadness, Please know. That upon my return,
do not confuse my Low hung head with me not Loving you, Because I will Always Love you.
My low hung head is the Shame that I feel for Failing you as a husband and failing our D.

Sheesh! needless to say...I saved these texts..for when he comes out of the fog. and can't remember
half the crap he has said or done!

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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#125: February 11, 2011, 12:13:07 PM
OMG synicca, my letter from h was so similar:

"even as i write this I cannot believe that I am leaving you

we were best friends, lovers, soulmates and that can never be taken away

the only regret that i have is how much i have hurt you (really ??? )
 
i am truly sorry for the pain i have caused. All of this is true."
 
 
blah, blah, blah, but i am still leaving you to move in with the office ow (no, it didn't say that, that was "magnificent" me  ;) )
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#126: February 11, 2011, 12:26:34 PM
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We should change our names to "Magnificent" & "Amazing"

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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#127: February 11, 2011, 12:31:28 PM
 LOL

I know! this is the thing that gets me..He finds it amazing that afterall he has put me through, That I still
show compassion and understanding.

He told me I was remarkable and wonderful! REALLY? makes my head do a "Linda Blair" effect...360 degree spin!

If I am so damn remarkable and wonderful, then WTH are you still doing with The OW? Because He has mentioned
on more then one damn occasion that he KNOWS I love him, and show it in all my actions. And the OW does nothing
to show him She does!

OMG! If I hear that one more time, I'm going to scratch his eyeballs out!  :o :o :o :o
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H Blocked xOW from contacting Him 10/12
Ended ALL contact with xOW Dec 26th 2012 (So I thought!) I filed for D June 10th 2013
Moved out.

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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#128: February 11, 2011, 12:34:38 PM
rediscover - good plan!!!

you could be The Amazing rediscovery, and I'll be Stand and Deliver, the Magnificent.  ;D Yours sounds archeaological (and given the depths that our spouses have sunk too, that may be apt)
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#129: February 11, 2011, 12:42:38 PM
Synicca If I am so damn remarkable and wonderful, then WTH are you still doing with The OW?


They are with the OW because of the three D's. Delusion, Dopamine, their D**ks.  Usually in that order...
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