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Interacting with Your MLCer Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#100: February 05, 2011, 06:26:04 AM
Early on d18 got this email from him that said
Your mother will be a better mother and me a better father this way
He told me once he's be a better exhusband than a husband
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#101: February 05, 2011, 06:51:16 AM
Here are some of the lines that I got (keeping in mind married for 25+ yrs and 2 kids):

"We have nothing in common and never did".
"I really didn't want to marry you and you knew that."
"You haven't changed.  You are the same b*tch you always were."
"YOu care about material things and I don't."
"OW had nothing to do with this."
"I won't tell you who she is.  She doesn't deserve that."
"The kids would want me to be happy."
"We are not compatible."
"I am not depressed."
"I figure I may have another 25-30 years.  And I don't want to spend them married to you."
"People don't change. If I came back, nothing would change."
"I am not passive aggressive!!!"
"Our relationship was good for the first couple of years and then went downhill fast."
"You never loved me for who I was."

LettingGo, I doubled over with laughter at the "affair is a real relationship."  That one almost tickled me til I couldn't breath.  Mine too, thought the OW was the cat's meow.  But it didn't last for 4 months after he left me and she dumped him because he was too selfish!  So if their relationship was so "real" and based on love, why didn't she stick by him in spite of his obvious flaws?  Now there is a reality check for you-

Did anyone else experience the H trying to recreate the same memories with the OW that they had with their spouse?  Mine bought a canopy bed (because we had received one for a wedding present from my parents).  What man buys a canopy bed???  And then he tried to take OW to a Shakespeare festival in Lenox,MA (I had taken him there in 1984 when we first met;(it was a truly magical weekend).  It seems he was trying to replace all his memories of me by just repeating them with someone new. Weird, huh?





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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#102: February 05, 2011, 07:06:07 AM
How about;

I have spent all my life pleasing others and forgetting myself
Now it is time for me to do what I wasn't able to do
Marriage has become a prison
I will always love you, that is for always
I don't feel anything for you anymore
You never want my opinion I don't know why I bother giving it to you :-\
We need to get on with our own lives, individually/separately
The children are old enough to understand and I know that they prefer me to be happy than how I was
You let your self go
You embarass me
You never let me do anything I want
If I step out of line, you are immediately on my case
I am afraid of you ???
I didn't want to tell you this, but I will...
I am tired... that's all.
Maybe we should never have gotten married
I think I married you to escape from my mother and home... ??? (this coming from a man!!!)
I don't have friends, and I NEVER had a female friend, so what is wrong with that??
I think that God has told me not to throw away the great gift he has given us, life!!
How can you know what God's will is for your life? It just may be quite different and we will be happy separately. (in response to my statement that God blessed our marriage)
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#103: February 05, 2011, 07:08:46 AM
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Did anyone else experience the H trying to recreate the same memories with the OW that they had with their spouse? 

Yes!  He is taking OW to 'our' out of town get-aways. As the 25th anniversary of our 1st date (San Francisco) approaches, I wouldn't be surprised if he takes her there to celebrate it! 
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#104: February 05, 2011, 07:16:09 AM
Yes when ow was finally leaving the house and had been gone for three days he stopped at my work and said practically in tears:
"I thnk I'm losing OW. She had a childhood that was a lot like yours"
It was the knight in shining aromor thing.
Come to find out "losing her" was the best thing that ever happened to him and now he knows that! Whew!
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#105: February 05, 2011, 12:31:20 PM
Found this my accident - very funny !!!!
http://nashlinks.com/midlife.htm
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#106: February 05, 2011, 12:47:01 PM
LMAO THAT IS PRICELESS!!! Gotta go do some laundry (I think I wet myself) ;D ;D ;D
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#107: February 05, 2011, 01:59:31 PM
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he he ........... ;D ;D ;D

I too could not believe it when I read it too ... think my H must have also cause this is him to a tee..
wish they had put the ending in how do i get myself out of this mess bit - hope its better than this script hey??

love B x
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#108: February 05, 2011, 02:29:19 PM
Cracks me up because he actually used the term the other day and in an email he sent me. Rollercoaster ride. He's getting and/ or has gotten off finally!!
Hope the rest of the family can get off also now.
The happiest part for me is I really don't care anymore what he ends up doing.
I jumped just before the end. That's the trick.   ;)
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#109: February 05, 2011, 02:29:55 PM
Love that... BW might even let my H read it, what you think  ;)
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