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Interacting with Your MLCer Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#90: November 29, 2010, 12:23:50 PM
No one else has mentioned this so maybe it is a unique one from my h. as told by him to D17 recently when she told him that his live in relationship with OW was an affair:

'I am not having an affair as mum knows about it so therefore it can't be considered as such'.

D17 still bemused and we laughed about it over dinner.

Now who can better that!

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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#91: November 29, 2010, 01:15:25 PM
Crazy Stuff

My H was having an EA with awoman at work that my entire family knows.  At one point during the EA I was at a party talking to her for aover an hour about how much we missed my H being at home because he was working so many hours. 
My kids played with her....
As far as I know the EA ended shortly after, but D12 found out about it from texts and emails she read.  After H moved out D12 sent two emails to her. 
My H said to me, "Nothing has happened between OW and me, but if D keeps pushing I will try my hardest to make something happen."
So, now assume it's PA?  Who knows!!!
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#92: November 29, 2010, 02:04:21 PM
My H tries to project this "I'm in control of myself", I'm mature and you are not.  I'm not hurt or sad, you are .

Can't stand it.  Comes across as so arrogant.  He forgets, his mask cracks once in a while and I can see the hurt, pain and confusion between the cracks.

Getting tired of it though!
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#93: November 29, 2010, 02:08:08 PM
My H is just avoiding our knowlegde of the affair all together.  Rediscover, he can blame you all he wants for the affair but it was his choice not yours.  I hate the selfishness of MLC.  They seem to have no regards for what any one else is feeling but themselves.  UGH !!
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#94: November 29, 2010, 02:20:18 PM
Quote from: CrazyStuff on November 29, 2010, 12:23:50 PM
No one else has mentioned this so maybe it is a unique one from my h. as told by him to D17 recently when she told him that his live in relationship with OW was an affair:

'I am not having an affair as mum knows about it so therefore it can't be considered as such'.

D17 still bemused and we laughed about it over dinner.

Now who can better that!

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I got something similar... "It is NOT an affair! It is a real relationship!"

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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#95: November 29, 2010, 03:55:49 PM
I've also gottten:
I'm done with you
I can't go back... I won't go back

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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#96: November 29, 2010, 06:22:52 PM
HaHaHa.... I got a version of the "it's not an affair... it's a real relationship!" a couple of times before... I made the mistake of calling it a teenage infatuation and his head nearly spun off - "IS THAT WHAT YOU THINK!!!???"

They apparently didn't get the memo that we don't CARE how wonderful their new relationship is SINCE WE ARE MARRIED TO THEM!! DUH!
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#97: November 30, 2010, 01:28:02 AM
Hi I agree about the lying.

It's not just the fact he lies. It's how good he is at it, and how long he has been practicing to reach this level of perfection.   It makes me wonder if he has always been like that, and I was sucked in from day one.

I have got to the point now, where I don't believe anything he says to me.  How he can look me in the eye, and lie so convincingly, makes me wonder if I ever knew him at all.  This is the one thing that I would struggle with if he ever did come home, wondering if he was ever telling me the truth, and if I could believe him.
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#98: February 05, 2011, 05:12:17 AM
Wow it is a basic script they have isn't it.  Here are some new ones I havent seen.

I'll be a better father because i will be happier and spend quality time with them instead of everyday.
You don't deserve me.
Everyone knows and I'd rather not face my old friends, besides i am making new friends with OW
She worships me and you didn't  - The Ow is more compatibe with me
You and I can still be friends , we have so much in common
The kids will have a great extended family and more kids to play with

So many more i don't even want to bother to mention.  I love my h dearly and know that he is "sick" which allows me to forgive him for these statements.  I don't want to condemn him right now, but truly just let him go to God's care.   But it is sad to see how these statements seem "rational" to him.
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#99: February 05, 2011, 05:37:55 AM
Last night, in between the tears, H said that he got sucked into it by OW.

 I asked him if OW forced him to fly to Florida and F*** her.  He paused and said No!!
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