[Sassyone]

Ready, well put:

I came to the forum for comfort and some gauze for my wounds and that is what I got. I can only hope that those new to the forum receive the same treatment- not a tourniquet.

I too received this and was in dire need of this.  It was awesome, I found people that understood and believed in what I believed in.  Yet on the otherhand, they were truthful and honest.  A good 2x4 never hurt anyone!

I agree we all vent and that's okay.  I think RCR and a few others are concerned that there is a lot of focus on the OW/OM.  For the most part I think we all can agree that they are a bandaid, but you are right it leaves a big big deep gash in our hearts that takes a long time to heal.

So this place should be a safe place to vent, but when venting turns to obession, I for one want someone to be honest and point it out to me.  I agree Bowser and Lawyer boy are hilarious too, now if I could only come up for a good name for my H's exOW . . . (oh wait she is gone now I need to let her go!)

I have said over and over this place was a lifesaver for me and I am sure for others.  Let's keep it that way.

Sassy

[Mamma Bear]

  Get ready to laugh..Sassy,  your Hs exow can be referred to lovingly as Sasquatch.   Not to dwell and obsess but sometimes the term OW is just too flat for literary excellence.  LOL.   

[SpecialK]

Totally with you Sassy.

SKxxx

[Sassyone]

Thanks Mamma, just spit my coffee on the screen.  I am so using that name from now on!

Sasquatch . . . Love it.  To bad I will never let on to H what it really means . . . hmm or perhaps I will as he does have a sense of humor!

You guys rock!

Sassy

[Mamma Bear]

  Sassy, that's why I gave you a pre-emptive..get ready...When I tell you  "Get ready" That means swallow your coffee and stop chewing    LOL!!

[Sassyone]

Dang it Mamma, now I know better.  Hmm going home for lunch might have to drop the new name a few times!  LOL

Your sense of humor is PRICELESS.  Humor really does get us through this crap at times!

Sassy

[In this for ME]

Well I'm sorry Fu@king Idiot IS a term of endearment as far as I'm concerened and one of these days I'm going to let him know I called him that all last year, and I know he would approve. I am NOT a name caller but this situation has left me no options. When at a loss for words that don't seem to express what I think I'll stoop to namecalling.
 
He prides himself on being INTELLIGENT...was what he did INTELLIGENT??

And "Rancid C" about covers the exskank and your right MB exskank doesn't deserve to be referred to as a "she" or "her" or anything like that because it's an insult to decent women EVERYWHERE that our gender referance is even attached to them.

I am wounded to deeply and it may be fatal so if I engage in name calling and it makes me smile I need to do so. As for letting go?? I think it's a really long way off for me.

[nesquick2]

yay  glad this thread is going along again. mamma i have spat a coffee out before and nearly choked reading one of your comments lol. ive learned from that now funny lady 
specialk  i so think this thread is going to keep you moving along girl. high 5 
ow i dont hate her, i dont like her and i dont even know her. as long as the kids are comfy around her and she treats them well then thats good enough for me. i always tell my kids to look after eachother and know when push comes to shove they do 

[stayed]

Ahhhh Mamma Bear thank you so much for accepting my comments as they were intended.  I think you are hilarious as well, and very well adjusted.  I was becoming afraid that it was beginning to "get" to you, so, "saw no risk and took the shot" hehehe.  Trust me, I didn't like the OW either.  I found her a wonderful distraction though when this first happened.  She probably saved my husband's life, because I debated between killing him or her!!!    Couldn't decide which one to do first, so didn't bother!

I do see and totally understand the benefit of directing our pain and agony towards the OP.  It really does give us time to adjust and accept what this horrible situation is all about.  By the way, I called the OW, Suey Sowey.   She was an affair down, one year younger then me, (59soon) she has been married 3 or 4 times already, had lost a lot of weight, had a facelift, had her hair de-frizzed... she was quite a piece of work.  She had a couple of quick affairs after h left her and has recently married a young man (fitness trainer) who is the same age as my youngest son 26.  She has gained every pound back plus quite a few extra.  She looks really "old".  Husband literally shivers when he thinks of her.  But man is he grateful for me... 

Personally specialk, I don't think another person ever makes anybody happy.  There are just too many things against the relationship working out.  This new OW of your h's is sad, because she really doesn't have any knowledge of you.  She probably has very little information regarding the mother of his son.  Seems to me, like she sort of got "sucked" into the big hole of your partners crisis.

I am delighted Specialk to hear you sounding so much more positive about yourself.  That is the secret to this.  Growing strong and empowering yourself.  What is learned from this, can benefit you the rest of your life, if you give it your all.  You are worth the effort SpecialK, spare yourself no expense.

hugs Stayed

[SpecialK]

Love it, maybe we should put a list together of all these names.

Thank you Stayed.  I do feel better, more calm, relaxed and I'm smiling & laughing a lot more.  It's like the blinkers are coming off and starting to see me in my true light (my Dad would be really proud of me  ).  I've know idea where this sudden shift has come from, but I'm loving it.  I am aware that I could come down with a bump, but hey I've lived in this negative fog for way too long. 

This may sound like a silly question, but could someone explain what an affair down is?

Thanks all, hugs


SKxxx


PS  Only three weeks to go until Spring - new beginnings