[Glimmer]

Went out with my friend last night and she told me this story about her sisters neighbours.

About 6years ago this man had an affair with another lady from across the road. This lady was a friend of his wife, who ultimately found out about the R. She kicked her husband out and the man and OW moved away together.  His wife divorced him. They lived together for about 2years until the man realised that he didn't love this OW but was in fact still in love with his ex wife. He apoligised to his ex and said he had been angry at her for always telling him to lose weight, and he felt that if she had truly loved him it would not have been a problem. He became attracted to this OW because she had not nagged him about his weight and had said she liked him just the way he was. 

Eventually they sorted out their differences and reconciled.  They were due to remarry a couple of years ago, butone of their parents took ill and died forcing them to put their plans on hold.  They have now rearranged their wedding for later this year, 6 years since they were divorced.  They are now both in their mid 50s, and happier than they have ever been.

[LoveMeMyself]

I love, love, love this reconciliation stories.  I hope we keep hearing them and posting on here.   

[hrtnbig]

I love these stories too.  My h is in MLC.  I have two female friends that both cheated on their husbands at the 20 year mark, both show all signs of MLC, one is single and her H is out of town, depressed and unemployed, she is "having casual sex" and still wouldn't take him back.  Other woman I know is living with boyfriend and "happy" BUT both have talked of regretting their choicies.  Both are still married to their H's and both are likely going to have HUGE regrets.  For me I don't talk to them much because I know the pain they caused their husbands and it makes me mad at them.  You can't tell an MLC'er what to do ever, not even a friend, they just don't listen.  My friends are both dumb these are good men they left and they will find other women as soon as their hearts heal, but that is the thing about MLC, it takes so much time.  I hope all "standers" have good outcome.  I question my standing all the time, but I also believe in the committment I made and I remember how wonderful he was to me when it was good.  If I didn't have those memories, I would be gone.

[BonBon]

I also have a friend who I believe is in MLC.
She had an affair and now she and her husband are splitting up.
She told me all these supposedly awful things about him which I know are NOT true.
He is a great guy and was a great husband.

She is a dear friend who has always stuck by me but she doesn't know what's going on in my life and I don't intend to tell her.

I am not being a good friend to her because I don't want to hear her MLC garbage.  I just don't have the stomach for it.  At all.

[Mamma Bear]

 HI! I am the one whose sister's H left and had OW 20 mos and came back. They're my heroes. Between this forum and my sister and her H.
 Now my Clingy Boomerang who has been at OW apt since Valentine's Day Massacre BD
 Ds 8 and 11 after 6 weeks of no sign of h he now goes and comes. My sister told me to STOP answering his calls every time and let him wonder what I as up to. Really worked. Now he's up my ass. Loving eyes taking apart bicycles in the driveway for no reason except have a reason to see me.
 Keeps telling the Ds "How come Mommy looks so much nicer?"
  Let's keep this Karma Bus going. Go back to ugly OW in the tiny hot apt and find your lost youth. We're having a BBQ
  Shout out to LG...Thanks for the advice about STOP PURSUING!

[LettingGo]

MB..... you've got a great support system with your sister and her husband.... you will get good info from the horse's mouth, so to speak!! Yes, your husband has NOTICED you and you don't look like what he remembered... the evil bit**y wife.... OW will eventually get compared to you and come up short... however, right now he's probably thinking "Oh, no..... now what do I do? I'm torn between two women..." YUCK and DOUBLE YUCK!! It's just a stage. COntinue to be aloof, but kind and serene... DO NOT COME UNGLUED in front of him if you can help it... Let OW be the crazy, irrational one... if only I had been able to control myself.... I remember that when my husband first noticed me after my 180, he actually said to me... "Wow... you seem really rational..." which told me a lot about his R with OW.

You have a long ways to go, but I have no doubt you will come through.... keep following your sister's advice and come here to vent your frustrastions.... 

[Mamma Bear]

 He said he's gonna mow the lawn..my friend's H is a landscaper.
 He might beat him to it. I'd do it myself but we're way up on a hill.
 Not to show him we don't need him but he's been talking about it so long it looks like that over grown field from Sound of Music
 Oh and When he makes blinky love eyes at me is that cake eating? 

[Shantilly Lace]

Oh oh oh there is a thread on cake eating somewhere.

But to mecake eatingis what dearheart is doing (and yes I LET him) he wants to have a relationship with you and ow.
Love eyes is just loveeyes and trying to make sure you are where he left you

[Mamma Bear]

 Yikes. I let him also and reciprocate love eyes. I am so much better and stronger since I saw that pix of Bowser OW woof. Yes I'm shallow.

[Shantilly Lace]

LOL shallow isn't always such a bad thing.

And if I get sick of the cake eating I can always make him eat dust.