Hi, since you've been gone. I'm doing better, thank you, but still somewhat in disbelief
, to be honest; I'm a slow learner, lol. It's going to take a while for me to get over this completely or close to it.
I can't even imagine myself having four, planned children and having him leave with the youngest still being an infant.
I'm so sorry you're going through it! That's like being on the opposite end of the spectrum regarding children involved in mlc. Sometime's, I don't even know if
not having any children with him was a blessing to me.
It's a really tough idea for me to grasp... the
what if we did have kids. All I know is that it hurts that I don't. It's hurts very badly either way, I guess.
At the very least, you know, almost certainly, that that Ow trapped your h since you know that she was trying to have a child already. I have no clue if that was the case with H. I think they planned it together though because, prior to bomb drop, he kept mentioning that he wanted a little one around. So, maybe that was part of his whole plan...
find someone that will make a good mom.
I have no idea. I feel like I'm in the Twilight Zone.
Hi Annej.
I think, by the way he responded with such brevity and so late, it was
not sincere but he did sent another email today asking if I "still wanted to talk". I
really have to think about it...
a lot. I can't decide if I want to tell him &^%& you or what. I've been praying for some guidance... and I have nothing. I have no pointers whatsoever. I have no strong feelings either way. I'm just numb and maybe dumb, too, lol.
It is like when a couple is having troubles in the marriage and decides to has a baby to sort the issues in the marriage. Having a baby to sort issues in a marriage never works. Having a baby with OW never works, it only brings more mess into the picture and often condemns the MCler to remain with OW, they wanting it or not.
I wonder if he was the one who thought to himself "this isn't the greatest relationship" ( I have no idea if it is or not ) "but maybe I can get a baby out of the deal"? I think he just wanted a baby-mama/friend with benefits. It occurred to me that RollerCoasterRider didn't have children with her H before his mlc. I wonder what she would have done had her H's mlc resulted in a child. I wonder if that would have been a deal breaker for her.