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#20: November 05, 2013, 07:52:17 AM
If your life is threatened LEAVE...if you are assaulted press charges ASAP.

I agree with Musica about the other two things.
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#21: November 05, 2013, 07:52:42 AM
If they were great providers before BD, that too, can change drastically, especially once OW/OM arrives on scene.  Be prepared for excessive spending, and a lack of care towards responsibilities.  Great efforts will be made to "eliminate" their previous life in any way possible.
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#22: November 05, 2013, 07:57:25 AM
That great parent they used to be can totally disappear, and they become totally self-absorbed, egocentric beings, with no filter on what is said or done in front of their children, or whether age appropriate.  No consideration whatsoever, treating them like buddies, removing themselves from parental responsibilities.  Oftentimes will ignore the children and act as if they don't even exist, even if a doting parent before BD.
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#23: November 05, 2013, 11:04:47 AM
Don't believe any of the excuses they give regarding why they do what they do.  It is NOT your fault, never was, never will be.  For sure you had your part in the relationship, and all marriages have bumps in the road, but you are NOT at fault or responsible for any of this.  This is their journey, you have your own.
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#24: November 05, 2013, 12:54:03 PM
Quote from: Snowdrop on November 05, 2013, 11:04:47 AM
Don't believe any of the excuses they give regarding why they do what they do.  It is NOT your fault, never was, never will be.  For sure you had your part in the relationship, and all marriages have bumps in the road, but you are NOT at fault or responsible for any of this.  This is their journey, you have your own.

ABSOLUTELY!!!  And never feel ashamed of what has happened, that you failed, and let them down. 

Whatever they were before BD, they will do a 180 and no matter what you thought of them, they will always surprise you with how low they can stoop.
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#25: November 05, 2013, 01:01:17 PM
Don't let them be too nice to you, it's manipulation!

I have learnt that one the hard way.

Don't rely on them for anything,

Don't ask questions...I did that too, and boy, I didn't like the answers !
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#26: November 05, 2013, 03:00:46 PM
If it wasn't for YOU ;), they would be happy!

Expect to be blamed for everything that has gone wrong with their lives, whether real or not, and not only since the day you met (another big mistake for them), but you are also responsible for what happened 10 years before you knew they even existed ::).  It is all your fault, and you will be reminded daily, in case you forget.

If things are a little rocky with OW/OM, it is also because of YOU! ( NOT!!!)

 
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#27: November 05, 2013, 03:04:37 PM
Self first , self last , self always (self meaning the Lbs and children)

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#28: November 05, 2013, 03:05:46 PM
 It wouldn't be all our fault but;

 we keep doing that annoying breathing thing... ::)
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

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#29: November 05, 2013, 03:07:35 PM
Great idea this snowdrop xx
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