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#30: November 05, 2013, 03:10:13 PM
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we keep doing that annoying breathing thing...

I know, we just will not listen will we ;)  How dare we even think of doing that!

Yeah, and those pets you have that they doted on, just as it is with the kids you had together, they also mean nothing.  They will walk past your dog, the one they loved so dearly, and not be able to remember your cat's name, nor stroke it as it sits lovingly looking up.  They are void of all feeling towards their once loved pets, just like with everyone else that meant anything.
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Re: MLC for Dummies - Tips, Tricks, and Total Fails
#31: November 05, 2013, 03:12:49 PM
Don't forget us lbs are very controlling!!!!

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Re: MLC for Dummies - Tips, Tricks, and Total Fails
#32: November 05, 2013, 03:16:34 PM
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Don't forget us lbs are very controlling!!
Of course we are, and them leaving was partly due to that very thing.  They just couldn't stand it anymore.  Add to that the fact that we started every single argument that ever went on.  As I was often reminded by H, all was good and fine until I opened up my mouth :o.
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Re: MLC for Dummies - Tips, Tricks, and Total Fails
#33: November 05, 2013, 03:18:26 PM
Love this thread  ;D
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Re: MLC for Dummies - Tips, Tricks, and Total Fails
#34: November 05, 2013, 03:20:06 PM
I even got that I argued with MYSELF! :o :o :o..That's a trick huh?

SELF CARE or both women and men.

 SLEEP, eat get some fresh air. REGULAR SHOWERS, BATHS, ETC... Clean clothes.
Make Dr and dentist appts. AD's if you think you need them.

Counseling for self and kids if someone seems to holding it in ...CRY AND LET IT OUT!!

Comfort each other..stronger relationships are made from this!
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Re: MLC for Dummies - Tips, Tricks, and Total Fails
#35: November 05, 2013, 03:21:08 PM
Join this site ;D
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Re: MLC for Dummies - Tips, Tricks, and Total Fails
#36: November 05, 2013, 03:27:37 PM
Your mlcer may express his feelings of 'not disliking you as a person'.
Yes, it's insulting.

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Re: MLC for Dummies - Tips, Tricks, and Total Fails
#37: November 05, 2013, 05:03:44 PM
Get tested for STDs - ASAP
Drink protein drinks while waiting to rediscover your appetite
Drop your standards for cooking, cleaning and yard maintenance
Ask for help and accept it
Meet up with another LBS ASAP
If not yet filed for a divorce, realize that he/she can WIPE out the joint acct. with NO consequences down the road- so perhaps you want to take half of any joint account before you are left with zero.
Get a credit card in your own name - PRONTO
Get off of his/her card as a joint user- go ahead and be an authorized user- difference being how liable you are for debt, safest bet is to get off their card
Get copies of past tax returns- information is power
Do NOT let on if you have access to cell records or passwords- you will glean a gold mine of info by staying mum
Crying helps- a lot-- it releases the pain and sorrow
Do not resort to alcohol- I was beer/wine free for about a year- until I could cope with the pain in a better way and enjoy a glass of wine as a beverage, not a crutch
Get a subscription to netflix and watch all the stand up comedy from the comedy channel you can stand, also watch the MLC genre- crying along is a great release
Start a musical instrument to focus your mind elsewhere- at least a year down the road you´ll have a new skill and won´t resent having spent all that time obsessing over your spouse
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Re: MLC for Dummies - Tips, Tricks, and Total Fails
#38: November 05, 2013, 07:25:34 PM
Started to do one about OW/OM, and stopped as I won't do it justice.  Anyone?  (GO FOR IT!!) ;D
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Re: MLC for Dummies - Tips, Tricks, and Total Fails
#39: November 06, 2013, 03:40:13 AM
has anyone read this link  http://midlifeclub.com/midlife-for-dummies.htm

you need to scroll down , its like a pi$$ guiding a man /women how to behave when having a MLC
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