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#20: May 09, 2013, 07:47:20 AM
I loved it and so wish I could send it on to H.....lol
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Re: LBS Script
#21: May 09, 2013, 12:49:11 PM
LOVE IT!!!! How about my H asking me for half of our kitchen, half of the bath towels and anything else I would give him and then yelling at me for not boxing it up for him! What?
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Re: LBS Script
#22: May 09, 2013, 06:32:18 PM
From my experience and perspective:

1st Stage - Anyone catch the number of that freight train that hit me?

2nd Stage - It's all my fault, what's wrong with me, I'm not good enough. I'm too fat, too frumpy, too Mumsy, too ( fill in the blank).

3rd  Stage - Get a grip, some of what he said has truth, other stuff is pure unadulterated BS.  He doesn't want the marriage.  WTH does that mean? He's an asshat, coward, ( fill in the blank). No, I DON'T WANT TO BE YOUR FRIEND!

4th Stage - OK, pull up the big girl panties and get on with it.  Make the best life you can for yourself and the kids.  Remember, be kind to YOU! You will make choices only for you and your kids.

5th Stage -WTH did I need him for anyway?  I'm doing just fine, sometimes lonely, often sad, and solo sex isn't exactly earth shaking, but it'll do...for now.  Gee whiz, it's actually kind of nice to have a big bed to myself,  be accountable to only me, to make decisions in my own best interest.

6th Stage -Wow, other people are noticing I have special qualities to offer.  I'm a good person, I like myself! I'm having fun and enjoying my life most of the time.

7th Stage - Bye bye, husband.  Hope you make a great life for yourself,  hope you sort it out before you die.
 I forgive you for all your past transgressions.  I won't forget, but I choose to forgive. The person you are you carry with you. In a way I pity you husband.   I can't change you.  I can't make you feel.  I can't make your choices for you. 
Good luck, kisses, my best wishes and general loving feeling go with you. See ya around!
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Re: LBS Script
#23: May 09, 2013, 06:40:55 PM
That is it, JD.  :) Somehow I skiped stage 2, I never thought it was my fault or anything was wrong with me. Stage 7 is a very cool one.  8) And we do reach it.

If only the MLCers knew we will get to stage 7...  ::) ::) ::) Poor them, still trapped in Replay (or elsewhere in the crisis).   ::) ::) ::)
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Re: LBS Script
#24: May 09, 2013, 06:51:32 PM
So well said JD! I love it and so true. I am actually doing much better than I thought. LOL.
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Re: LBS Script
#25: May 09, 2013, 07:28:51 PM
Beautifully spoken JD! My MLcer taught me I dont need him in my life...I want him but I dont want to need him....I am looking forward to stage 7... :)
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Re: LBS Script
#26: May 09, 2013, 09:11:17 PM
   Awesome Wed.. and everyone. Oh gosh.
   Wed when you said "weather the storm" I thought that was a picture of Al Roker the weatherman. Is it a rapper making a mug?  lol
   How about when you get super busy at work and with the kids and you forget all about the MLCer!  ;D  His cellphone text box was full and he didn't know he had to delete them to make room.   For 1 month nothing but quiet pretty much. ;D
   So I work 30 days in a row and help the girls live our lives while Mr.Sabotage Sam is nowhere to be seen and then suddenly shows up all cute and hoovering. 
    sigh followed by YAWN!!   ;D ;D
  Keep going everyone!
  At some point I will go over to my thread and tell you about OWs D22 moving in with 2 babies and a new H of her own.
Ended up bad with cops and welfare and people getting kicked out. MLCer flies in sH!Tstorm and can't see it! Yet!
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Re: LBS Script
#27: May 10, 2013, 07:02:22 AM
   Wed when you said "weather the storm" I thought that was a picture of Al Roker the weatherman. Is it a rapper making a mug?
Hi MB!  It's actually NFL wide receiver Terrell "T.O." Owens.  If you're unfamiliar with him he is famous for throwin' his team's QB under the bus.  One day, he decided to "flip the script" and take up for his QB (and show some emotion as well).

I'd blame MLC but dramatic is the dude's normal, so there really would not be any way to tell.  Maybe he'd decide to grow hair?
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Re: LBS Script
#28: May 10, 2013, 08:13:00 PM
Wed, that was great!

I said a sentence, I thought I'd never in my life say to my H (now exH). I was on the phone, over 1000 miles away when he told me he had moved out. I was due to fly home that morning, so I asked, "do I still have a bed?"

Never in a million did I think I'd be asking my H that question.
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Re: LBS Script
#29: June 01, 2013, 09:19:39 AM
LBS Stages and LBS Script got merged into one thread.

Feel free to comment on either one.

There is a good link back to DB that I posted on page one.
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