[StayPositive]

Just came across this one.  Not sure if it has been posted before, but I thought it was interesting....

"From Irritable Male to Run-Away Husband: Anatomy of a Mid-Life Marriage Meltdown" by Jed Diamond. 

http://www.scribd.com/doc/45834667/From-Irritable-Male-to-Run-Away-Husband-Anatomy-of-a-Mid-Life-Marriage-Meltdown

[MyBrainIsBroken]

Now he can write another book called Irritable Wife Syndrome or he can call it what it really is, MLC.

[CallanG]

Just wanted to share this, I first saw this on Gimlan's page. I have read RCR's article about distance/pursuer but this seemed to make so much sense to me and clarified for me the real implications for pursuing and what it looks like. I've now stopped being "kind" and replaced with bare bones politeness. Very eye opening.

http://www.joanmarielartin.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/11/distancer.pdf

It is very interesting reading that we all have a bit of both , my H would want me close then push me away . The part in the article that mentions a distancer wanting their partner to have an interest as long as it did not take away from them was so true . H encouraged me to take up riding again and then sulked when it threatened him .

[CallanG]

Just came across this one.  Not sure if it has been posted before, but I thought it was interesting....

"From Irritable Male to Run-Away Husband: Anatomy of a Mid-Life Marriage Meltdown" by Jed Diamond. 

http://www.scribd.com/doc/45834667/From-Irritable-Male-to-Run-Away-Husband-Anatomy-of-a-Mid-Life-Marriage-Meltdown

Thank you for posting that it was very interesting .

Callan

[JD]

http://captaincapitalism.blogspot.ca/2015/04/when-good-men-retire-from-game.html

"So, any word from the girly girl front?"

And all he said was, "No, I have absolutely no energy for that.  I just want to pay the mortgage and go hunting."

And that was it.  That was the summation of his past year of dating life.  "No, I don't have the energy."

It wasn't an editorial comment.  It wasn't one of "I tried, but dem womenz be crazies."  It had no passion or emotion in it.  It was merely a statement of fact:

"No, I don't have the energy for it."

And though I had intuitively known this for a while, it was once again one of those things that had yet to make its way to the frontal lobes, turning itself into a concrete observation.

Men do burn out.

[OldPilot]

Yup men have less testosterone and thereby less drive as they get older.

It is basic biology!

Makes sense to me!

[Thunder]

You know, I see this in my X right now.  He's 50 and is exhausted most of the time.  He works A LOT and when he gets home, he's home to stay.

I, honestly, couldn't imagine him bar hopping anymore.

After bd (4 years ago) he tried to party, went to a few bars...but then just stopped.  He doesn't drink and told me when he looked around all he saw were lonely people.  He would NEVER have saw that 30 years ago.  Sex drive in high gear and it was exciting.   Now it would be a challenge.

[LisaLives]

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/irrelationship/201407/is-your-relationship-real

This is a really interesting blog about patterns of NOT being in a relationship.  I think many of you will see your MLCers, and maybe even yourselves in these descriptions.  Rather than always looking for hard personality disorders, or other psychological diagnoses, I bet a LOT of MLCers were simply afraid to be in a real relationship, or didn't know how, so when the going got tough, it was easier to run.  Anyway, just a bit of education, I hope it helps someone.  Love and light, ll

[LearningIamOk]

As always, you find ways to challenge ourselves and our belief systems. Thank you Lisa for always making me think.

[Thundarr]

Interesting analysis.  I don't think it applies in my sitch but it may in others.  Thanks LL.