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Mirror-Work Dreams
OP: August 15, 2010, 06:18:13 AM
Hi everyone

One of the things that has struck me very forcefully when reading everyone's posts is the amount of times we all seem to have dreams about our partners. I thought perhaps when someone has a dream they could post it here and could have it explained - if anyone is into 'dream meanings'.

Mine is always quite simple: I dream I am making love with my H but although I can see his body I can't see his face, but the one last night was even stranger - I was trying to kiss him, but he kept pursing his lips and turning away to one side (rather like a child would when he doesn't want to kiss grandmother). I remember crying in this dream too.
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Re: Dreams
#1: August 15, 2010, 06:52:08 AM
I'll be first!  I posted this on my thread but will post it here too!  I don't have many dreams of H at all, I even "tried" to continue this dream last night and nothing happened.  So, I think it is important to write them down!

...I am not sure if it was 2 dreams, or 1, 2 part one. H woke us at 6am and said he was here with some guys to move stuff out of the garage and did I want to come watch what they took...then in part 2...we must have been back together as we were going thru some junk and he handed me this box and told me to check and make sure nothing was in there, I looked in and there was a car registration, in my name for a green mustang. He had apparenlty bought me a vehicle to make up for his A I guess. So, he carries me to see it and we get there and it is not a green mustang, it is a baby blue something...don't know my cars that well but it is beautiful and I love it. Weird!  I interpret that it means that he would still be deceiving me!!!!

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Re: Dreams
#2: August 15, 2010, 06:54:28 AM
I have two types that involve my wife: one where things are normal (she comes home happy to see me, hugs and kisses, etc.) and the occasional one where I am apparently putting my life back together after a divorce.

I'm not sure which one hurts more.
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Re: Dreams
#3: August 15, 2010, 06:56:55 AM
My dreams of my H lately have been very "normal" - doing family things, going places together, etc.  Last night we were on a family vacation together.  They seem to be increasing in number, or may I just didn't really pay attention as much before.
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Re: Dreams
#4: August 15, 2010, 12:59:41 PM
I'll be first!  I posted this on my thread but will post it here too!  I don't have many dreams of H at all, I even "tried" to continue this dream last night and nothing happened.  So, I think it is important to write them down!

...I am not sure if it was 2 dreams, or 1, 2 part one. H woke us at 6am and said he was here with some guys to move stuff out of the garage and did I want to come watch what they took...then in part 2...we must have been back together as we were going thru some junk and he handed me this box and told me to check and make sure nothing was in there, I looked in and there was a car registration, in my name for a green mustang. He had apparenlty bought me a vehicle to make up for his A I guess. So, he carries me to see it and we get there and it is not a green mustang, it is a baby blue something...don't know my cars that well but it is beautiful and I love it. Weird!  I interpret that it means that he would still be deceiving me!!!!

A good friend of mine interpreted my dream in this way-

"6 am represents the dawn of a new day,

Men are there to move out the old and you're to watch to make sure those things that you want, stay. H wants you to watch to prove that what you want is important to him.

The gift of the car represents his remorse for the A.

Picking you up and carrying you to go look at it represents his fear that if he doesn't hold on to you may just walk away.

The car being a green mustang represents the jealousy that you have felt, and then you let it go and it changes.

The other car being blue represents calmness.

The car turning into an ever better car represents that your new life with your H will be better than you ever expected. After all you have a new car in which to make that journey together. Less chance of breakdowns along the way."



My friend does not have a dream analyzing book but this is how she came up with her interpretation....she said,


"You had distinct details you remembered in that dream such as the time, colors, being carried, gift that I think are significant.
Another thing I was thinking about being carried was that I'm always afraid that when I'm picked up that person will drop me or fall with me. It's a trust thing. Maybe your H was saying, trust me, I won't let you down again???"



My friend put a disclaimer on her version to take it FWIW. I don't believe in crystal balls but I like the positive spin on it!
Curious as to what others come up with!
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Re: Dreams
#5: August 15, 2010, 04:40:57 PM
I figured I'll chime in for a male perspective. My wife and I have been seperated since Nov.'09. From December of that year to late June of this year, I dreamed about her every single night. In these dreams we had always reconciled and we happy and doing the things we normally do.

At the end of June, for about 2 weeks, the dreams turned very dark, she would tell me she couldn't/wouldn't be faithful. We argued and I had no peace in these dreams about her during this time. After dealing with this for two weeks, I starting binding Satan from my dreams and the bad dreams immediately stopped and went back to dreams of us being happy and reconciled. Difference now is I don't dream about her like I did orginally.

The only thing I think is different is that lately I have learned to drop the rope and have truly turned her over to Christ.
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Re: Dreams
#6: August 15, 2010, 04:53:14 PM
A different type of dream. OWs mother used to be a good friend of mine. She seems to support her D, and said everything was my fault for having such a terrible R with H, so of course he would lie to me. She's very concerned to save face in this small town. Nevertheless, I think that behind the scenes she's put trying to put pressure on her D.

I dreamt that I saw OWs mother, and she ignored me, so I called out to her, held her arms gently, and said "it's not your fault, and it's not mine. I know this is hurting you too, and you're still my friend." And I hugged her, and she cried.

I forgave her in my dream, and I awoke with no further feeling of animosity towards her.
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Re: Dreams
#7: August 19, 2010, 02:48:21 AM
I do not typically remember my dreams, but I woke up this morning and did remember one.  It was very full of symbolism.  (I think it might have been two dreams)

I was briefly walking in an area near the house I grew up in.  One house had been partially painted bright yellow.  On this particular street one can go straight or turn right.  I don't know which direction I choose.  Then I was in our home, but it wasn't our home.  My H and S were making pancakes.  They were saving some for our D.  There were two plates with two neatly stacked pancakes on each plate.  She was still sleeping.  We were supposed to pick up two puppies from a shelter for a friend.  We were also considering getting one for ourselves. (we don't have a pet due to H's allergies)  I went into the bathroom to do something or other.  I could hear H and S talking in low voices in the other room.  They both came into the bathroom.  I tried to hug H, but he would not hug me back.  They wanted to convince me to get two puppies for us so that our puppy would have a friend and not be alone.  I left the room and started to look up the stairs.  I was considering the two puppies.  Lots of pairs in the dream. 
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Re: Dreams
#8: August 19, 2010, 05:06:24 AM
I don't have a lot of dreams, but I have had some beautiful dreams of reconciliation, apologies, and lots of tears for the pain my H has caused.

The one dream that stands out so much to me was a few months ago. I was walking down this long, long hallway. I could see a faint light in the distance. As I got closer I could tell that it was a cellphone. When I picked the cellphone up, it had a blinking text message that said,

"Hold on, Hold on, Hold on" over and over again.
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Re: Dreams
#9: August 19, 2010, 05:30:35 AM
Stillhere...all the pairs in your dream is interesting!

Still...GOOSEBUMPS!!!!
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