[Musica]

H ... what you did wasn't very nice  ( I picked up D and forgot to tell his mother I was getting her)

Me ... You are hilarious ... like leaving your family three times, betraying your wife, lying and cheating are nice?? You have been doing lots of things that aren't very nice since 2009. ... stop lecturing me and look at yourself H ... you are a hypocrite ...


Silence

[toughtimes]

I'm not sure about anyone else but I still have the MLC sentences pop into my head randomly all the time? Kind of like flashbacks 

You make me feel like my parents made me feel

You're not like normal wives who support their Hs

[Ready2Transform]

I'm not sure about anyone else but I still have the MLC sentences pop into my head randomly all the time? Kind of like flashbacks 

Very normal.  Sometimes a trigger will do it or it just comes from out of nowhere.  The irony is they probably can't remember saying half of this stuff, but we'll never be able to forget it.

[Bewildered]

mine ...

I cant live with you as ....

You cook too much rice/pasta when you make Indian/Italian dishes - you are wasteful

When you drive you stop in the bike lane and thats dangerous (i said Id only done that at midnight when we were the only car on the road) - he said what about the bikes !! (I said there were no bikes) he said there could have been - I gave up

I AM NEVER coming back (event when I wasn't asking him anything that required this reply - once I laughed and said who asked you too?
- not had this for over 2 years 

I need freedom to be myself as I am a perfectionist ?? (Never witnessed perfection or even the attempt by him in 26 years in anyway - more slap dash?)

You are always so mean to me (Have gotten this one a lot until I said to him Oct '12 - what a ridiculous thing to say stop it!! If anything I am nice to you - you are mean to me) Not said it since ?  - it fitted me to say this as it came out of nowhere and really had nothing to do with me being anything with him was just giving his some info ...

He's mad at cycling said I cant live here anymore I have cycled all the lanes and need new lanes to cycle

You are too tidy

To Daughter;

When his mother died - I am now (father died 10 years ago and he had a miserable relationship with his Mother and she was I feel someone with a narcissistic personality disorder ) all alone in the world I don't have anyone now who loves me - Lucky Daughter know he isn't normal

I am now a vegetarian (ate steak the following week D said I thought you were a now a vegetarian he said I was last week) 

We have been unhappy for a long time - in fact I cant remember when I was ever happy (Only 4 months before was my birthday and he had written,"Happy BD Bewildered -  You make me so happy - I love you so much xxxxxxxxx blah blah  Birthdays were always big things to him (He now says to kids when they ask him what he is doing for his BD I don't do Birthdays anymore BUT every Birthday of mine he sent me bar 2012 a HD message text BUT forgot daughters 21st!!? In 2012 he was protesting as again I was mean to him sent a text meant for my daughter's boyfriend sent to H by mistake  (BF has the same name as my H and similar surname) who was in Peru and asking if I could do something for him - i replied "We can sort out everything when you come home - don't worry it will all work out"
Saw H for a lunch - was very nice he wore clothes I had bought him the week before he left which at the time he had said he hated and was taking back to the shop and then during our lunch -  I said " Oh re the text I sent a few days ago I meant that to go to X but sent to you by mistake as Id just replied to you about todays arrangement but I guess you knew it was a mistake sorry !!' - his reply "no i thought it was for me  then a few months later before my BD he brought it up again and said you are so mean to me! So no BD message the following week ...

there are more but funnily i am forgetting them -


Maybe Ill forget these too - Hope so xx

[Mamma Bear]

  Your "role" in all of this Mama Bear is to be 'my bestest friend in the whole wide world'   

[SpecialK]

Just after we broke up the second time.  'I want what everyone has; ever lasting love' 

[panda]

'If I had known you were going to be THIS bad, I never would have had children with you'

'When you cooked you just cooked stuff and didn't even care what I would have liked and gave me scraps'.....OMG! - what a joke.

'But you were happy doing family stuff'

'I don't want to wake up in 10 years time and realise I have done nothing with my life' - what a total insult.

'When I go out, I like to go out very late - you are boring for wanting to come home at the end of the evening'

'I think you need to go out and get yourself financially independent from me'

'I have found a glimpse of happiness, and I can see now what it is like'

[Mamma Bear]

  I was crying on the couch for 10 years!

[Reinventing]

I have to say that all the cooking ones really make me laugh. Cook too much, cook too little, cook too much rice/pasta, cook and feed me scraps, cook this, cook that.......

I still vote for the Stockholm Syndrome as the king of them all. I must say that that one takes the cake. The cake, of course that wasn't cooked right.

[Musica]

Just remembered one from ages ago ...

You're the best at being you, but I've had you for 22 years and now I want something different.

And another ... I'm going to build a log cabin in the field to live in. Or ... We should buy two houses near each other so I can be free to do what I want.

Can't I live here and still see OW?

The girls don't need me any more, none of you need me, I might as well not be here.

Oh the memories!!