[ALL I WANNA BE IS DONE]

I never really heard this particular statement come of of ExH but he declared he wanted to "do it himself" Like a two year old. Claims he never lived by himself in his life. Which really he didn't.

Well he still hasn't achieved that yet that I know. He's got both of the D's and his mother.
So I guess I'm the one who gets to live by myself which is working out just fine.

They say they want to live by themselves then grab a band-aid in the form of the ow thinking that will stop the hemorrhaging. Exh already tried that in the first go-around. 

He really isn't one to live alone I don't think. Too much of a baby. BUT it will never be me again he lives with again.

At one point he exclaimed his life was in the toilet.... I didn't remark but what I thought was;

That would have been fine if you hadn't taken us all with you 

My mistake was the same I did too much for him but he pretty much let me. We become mothers to them instead of what they need which is shared responsibility for agreed upon things.

[toughtimes]

I heard "I need to fix myself. I thought I had built myself back up in this R but I realised I built myself wrong. I need to go and fix myself on my own, I don't want to do it with you." That last bit was spat at me.
I didn't know at the time he was having an affair and that he would be fixing himself in her flat!

[ALL I WANNA BE IS DONE]

My conclusion is that  they have no sense of themselves. So they are searching for that. and l honestly believe they do need to do it by themselves. Become self made somehow.

It's just they say that they want to do it alone then run to ow who really can't help other than providing another mask to hide behind and then the MLCer can pretend they have a "clean slate" to start over with. We've got the history.

 That's what exh said about his infidelity. She was his "clean slate".   WOW

[27 years]

Mine made many similar comments but one that really got me was it's my fault he will have to go live with his mom who lives about 1 1/2 hours away, because I wouldn't sign document for him to build new house while we're still legally married.  I did go back and forth on whether to sign, but my attorney told me definitely not.  So now it's my fault he'll be 1 1/2 hours away from his work and his children.  But of course he'll be with OW.  Really!

[Snowdrop]

It's a crime to the universe to be this unhappy

I burst out laughing every time I read this.  I love this stuff, keeps me giggling away.  I know it isn't funny at the time, or any of this, but when you read it later, you have to laugh.

I remember H saying to me in an email, "I didn't abandon anyone, I just removed myself from a dysfunctional relationship!"  Coming from him, that's hysterical! 

God bless than man of mine, or hers, or whos? 

[Musica]

Just last week h said to my Ds. ... you make me feel unloved and unwanted ... mmm he left! How did that make them feel? He has no idea.

[BB64]

Get this...

At BD, My MLC'er said to me:
''While I have been away working, I didn't miss you all week. Even my stomach was better, I had no heartburn-no stomach aches.''

I said:'' So I make you ill? It couldn't be the beers you drink every night upsetting your stomach?''

Him:'' No. I was drinking red wine over there, and that didn't give me heartburn. So no it's not the alcohol that makes me ill, and anyway, I don't drink that much!!!!!!!!!''


Two Sundays ago, I offered him a glass of wine with lunch:

''Oh, no, no, thanks. Urgh, red wine gives me terrible heartburn''...said he, looking absolutely disgusted by the thought of drinking a glass of wine.

Me: ''Oh right....ok''      sniggering inside

[theheartknows]

Mentioned to H that we made a promise to each other "for better or worse.' He said, You don't have to remind me of our vows... I don't think this means I should have to live so unhappy. God wouldn't be so cruel!" Cruel?? Really H...you sure didn't look like you were suffering on our vacation the week before BD! Didn't act like it in bed, either!

[Snowdrop]

How about this one. 

During his first visit with the kids in almost a year since he walked out, and when all he spoke of was himself and his new wife, he said with pride about how they met (in a bar on the first night of his vacation and they married not long after):

"Before she went to sleep the night before, she made a wish that she would meet a guy to fall in love with the next day........AND THERE I WAS"

Okay, I'm not sure why I find this so funny.  I even laughed at the time when he said it, and reminded him to maybe never say that out loud in front of adults EVER again as he sounded "*&*%i"ng ridiculous!

[panda]

Snowdrop - I have read your post a few times and each time i find it so funny!!!!   


Me: ' Do you have any feelings left for me?'
H: 'I would not want you to die'



And my H also was jumping around saying how happy he was that he was now doing 'things himself' - he was happy to be in control of washing his own pants - whatever makes you happy H..........